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Girl rides big cock. I am a failure, a nothing and always will be. It sounds like click are tired in this post. When I get tired, the words others have used to define me often come out of my own mouth. There is no easy cure for thinking we are worthless…I hope that you find evidence of your worth even before you start looking for it.

Many blessings to you, you belong here. I know exactly how you feel. Every word. Except even my grown children have quit coming around. I have nothing, I am I have no one in my life, will never. No friends. I search for happiness, I look for something to be fun, but fail each and every here. Have given up and just wait to die.

I sometimes feel the way you do…. As I have no one in my life, we are very subjective of ourselves, but God sees so much more in us. Please hang in there and click God I have no one in my life, he will never forsake YOU!

Everything makes me irritated and I lash out more than I can imagine. No more me being a miserable bitch and no more pain. I wish I had an answer. I could have written your post myself. I was suicidal and depressed growing up, gave myself a new start in high school, dated someone for 5 years, tried to break up after 3 and finally married him after feeling that all relationships were destined to be unhappy as his parents and men seemed to be.

Eleven years after meeting him, we had our first child, three years later, the second. My here made me feel that giving birth was the only time I had ever done anything worthy of their approval.

My children became my life, my husband withdrew. I was treated for depression several times with each treatment feeling my husband pull further away. Seventeen years after meeting him, I met the right therapist who made me aware that I was married to a functioning alcoholic which finally made me feel the tension in our marriage was not entirely my fault everything seemed to be my fault as I was growing up-my parents made that quite clear.

I divorced, taking my kids with me, in hopes of protecting them. They never believed their dad was an alcoholic, they were in the midst of their teenage angst period and I got no emotional support from the ex. I met someone who filled all the emptiness I felt and became engaged. I have no one in my life was when my life went from barely tolerable to extremely happy to utterly unbearable.

My kids had refused to have anything to do with me, the environment was toxic and the divorce settlement forced me to sell my house. I had to move away, the kids wanted to stay with my parents because their dad lived an hour away. I had to turn custody over to my ex so that he would be forced to finally play a role in their lives. Here I am now, ten years after the separation, six years living out of the area and desperately trying to reconcile with my kids.

I even hate myself for writing this post. I too could have written your post silentcry. I am tired…just so amazingly, horribly life sucking tired. My mother favored my brother my whole life. Nothing I could do was ever good enough. Nothing could make her proud. I was close with my father, but I have no one in my life worked a lot and was hardly ever home.

About a year ago I gave up trying to make my mom proud of me and ever since I am numb. Inside I loathe myself and my decisions. I hate this!!!!! I want to have goals again. I want to dream. I want to try again. But most of all I I have no one in my life to remember what it is to have FUN again. I used to be so fun.

I used to have so much fun. My deepest desire is to have a small farm with a huge garden and animal where my children can explore and I can be free. Living in this one bedroom apartment is like a prison.

There is no way out. There is no knight in shining armor, There is no second chance — we are doomed by our mistakes. I am trapped. I hate him. I hate that I have to do this all by myself. My kids are all that keeps me from killing myself. When my mother dies I will not cry. My brother became the man she believed he would, and I became the loser she thought I was. I know for a fact that if she had treated me as equal to him that my life I have no one in my life be dramatically different.

I am trapped…. You actually sound very successful to me. Move to a farm in the country, take your kids to a farm nearby, or just go exercise and be in the sun. Do what you want and share it with your kids if you can.

You all deserve it! Tired…that is exactly what I would have called myself, had you not. I too am tired…a little differently though. Specifically to what you wrote though…my I have no one in my life was similar. The kids are grown.

Layna nude Watch Video Repa Xxxbfhd. But what if, despite what everyone says, you still feel alone? We asked our mental health community for some suggestions to get us started. Most of all, we want you to know that if you get frustrated by people telling you to reach out , we feel you. Here are some things you can do when it feels like you have no one: The downside of Facebook groups: Although this process might be tricky, it can be worth it when you find the right one. When I cut off contact with my family, I felt like none of my friends could relate. I searched Facebook until I found a couple groups that seemed to match what I was going through. Pets are also great ice-breakers, and bringing your furry pal along when you leave the house might make socializing a little easier. As Mighty member Melissa A. They can give the unconditional love and support that humans are unable to provide. If reading can get us out of our heads for a little while… a book club is the irl in real life equivalent. If talking about books in person if not your thing, you can also find virtual book clubs. For example, BuzzFeed just launched a book club. All I can say is that I am so fundamentally tired inside. I pretend to be happy and okay. Bur pretending is killing me. I lost my faith in God, and am consumed with guilt, shame and fear of punishment. I was never like this. The hard blows of the last five years have killed a lot of good in me. I just want to lay there on the couch and be left alone. I feel exactly like Joan. Her words were like reading my mind, the same thing I would have written. Less time unemployed, but the rest is straight up my life right now. I have suicidal thoughts everyday but never got the courage to do it. I have lost the happy fun loving person I used to be. If not for my dogs I would have died long back. When I was in my worst funk, at one point, I had to basically let go and give myself permission to feel bad and not want to do anything. I at times very sad. I feel this dark cloud coming over me. I try to avoid this feeling but sometimes it is overwhelming. I too tear up. At times I leave the house and go shopping trying to get these thoughts and feeling out of my head. I dread sleep. As I sleep for a few hours and get up and sit in a chair the rest of the night. This depressive states comes over me because everyone comes to me with their problems. They have no regards to my emotions and feelings. I have no support system because everyone is looking for me to solve their problems. I am beginning to avoid phone calls from my children, because for the most this dark cloud comes from them. Everyone wants me to help them. Their problems put me into a state of worry. They are grown and I want to live my life. When ever I get a call from them it is not to say mom how are you doing today, but something they want me to do for them or their spouse. I am tired, tired, tired. I have my own problems to contend with. Their problems worry me because I tend to take them on. They know that I worry but continuously relate problems to me and not only my kids but my siblings. I feel the exact same way. Really bad insomnia, all of my hobbies feel flat and non-rewarding, crazy night-time anxiety, concentration is cloudy. I saw a shrink, it helped a little. I found out a lot of my friends and people I thought I knew well are suffering through some form of this as well. They all had great things to say about SSRI minus one person who had some weight gain. Sounds like what I went through. Look up adrenal fatigue syndrome. I had success using essential oils. I hope you find relief. I also have no reason for feeling this way. Everything about my life is great on paper. May be the case with you if nothing stands out as being negative in your life. It goes away for a bit but comes back with a vengeance. I love art but that has become a chore as well. I constantly feel like when I am creating art, I could be doing something else and I lose interest. I am constantly sick with the flu or with overwhelming headaches. I can be ok at work sometimes but then at night, I dread having to come back in the morning. Just be careful with SSRIs. I resorted to them a couple years ago. I was on a low dose. I went through a honeymoon phase where I felt great. But that slowly wore off and I ultimately became depressed again, but now had the added side effects of the SSRI which took away my sex drive and made my complacent. Even on a low dose. The Dr. My anxiety was the only true thing the SSRI helped. The depression and lack of motivation were only better for a very short time. I slowly weaned myself of them but I feel worse than ever. I wish I never took them. Everything about my life should be great. I used to browse the internet late at night until I went drowsy with tiredness, and only then could I sleep, otherwise the thoughts and restless self-imprisoning mind plague me. The result was that I went to school each day on six or less hours of sleep. I would snap at my parents because they were the first people I saw every morning. Two of my direct relatives have committed suicide paternal grandfather, maternal great-grandfather and my maternal grandfather was diagnosed psychotic and spent many months of his life in a mental hospital. I feel the same way Steve. I find my anxiety councelor helps allot, an outsider who you can share everything with. I write or text myself a list of what I want to talk about before my appointment. Yoga also helps…alot. Eating healthy is a given, but not always easy.. Not comparing ourselves to others in a negative way Faking a smile.. I was on different medications in the past that made me worse.. Every body is different, so its finding what is right for you.. If it helps, two years ago I was at a point where there was nothing I enjoyed. I put myself first by doing things I knew were good for me such as, focusing on my physical and mental health, spending time outdoors, and being patient and honest with myself. The untethered soul by Michael A Singer may be a helpful book for you. Finding what you enjoy again will come naturally over time. I believe you need to do some soul searching. Technically, your twenties are meant for that trial and error period where you test the waters. Spent the whole weekend sleeping. My kids know there is something not right. From being a lively ,bubbly, health freak to being overweight and a total misery. The only way out is to sleep and sometimes wish I would never wake up. Doing nothing and wondering what the hell is happening to me. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you are trying therapy and considering medication. I also was highly successful academically and at work, teaching aerobics classes, with a spotless apartment. Then something happened. I hope you are feeling better soon. I have been through good times, great times as well as trauma in my life. One step back, one step back until we can lose momentum. Observe; remember the human physics law: Some is real, some is fiction. It is a bit of truth. It can be deceiving as well. Like the warning on a mirror: Objects may appear larger than life. My depression is real. Councilors, support groups can help facilitate the process. For me, daily prayer to GOD, which is ultimately with me, to never give up, to keep going, to create a new plan, to find a lifestyle that fits my vision. Things is motion: I have found that simple movement can really assist in the dismissal of depression. For example, i feel like doing nothing. But, I find ONE small thing to get myself going. I must brush my teeth, get showered, dressed, and go to get a coffee. Then, I allow myself to revisit the depression. Accomplishing activities, make a list and do the small stuff first. The issues in my psyche that need to be looked addressed may be talked through with a counselor. The mind is as receptive and delicate. It will do as you tell it. Observing or knowing that YOU are a spirit in a human body mind can be really powerful. Knowing that what you think may be harmful to what you are is incredibly resourceful. It is One Step that woke me up from a false sad, unmotivated self to an enlightened, ready, willing self. It takes practice. I am a work in progress; seeing my life as an hour glass.. I have always been the strongest one within everyone I know, nothing phased me and I could conqour the world. After the separation of my husband, a trip overseas which turned into a nightmare, my mother getting cancer, countless good friends leaving the city I live in, countless people screwing me over, plus many countless things to beat me down its finally got me to breaking point. Strength is something we can retrain within ourselves, because we had the building blocks for it to begin with. I am totally exhausted because I have to do everything around the house, be emotionally and mentally available all the time. I am just struggling to keep our lives together. I have to make a choice: My husband knows that he needs help but he is not very eager to get help. Holidays are something I dread because even if we do go out with the children he is never mentally and emotionally available and that leaves me to fill both my role and his role in the lives of our children. This is exactly where I am at in my life, marriage and relationships. My husband has sucked everything out of me. I no longer have any mental, emotional or physical energy to give. He goes out to his job and gets his batteries re-energized. Me, my well is dried up. My whole life feels like a lie. I feel like my family is deserting me wanting to leave me. Trying to keep me down but also trying to some how keep me going. I tried to kill myself. And all this is happening to a fourteen year old kid. My reasons are different but the feeling is the same. I am sticking to an exercise plan and right now decided to not make any firm moves till I loose 20 lbs. This is helping but little. I feel like that. It destroyed my life I lost my wife and All my family. Nothing to go on. Everyday I fight just to keep going. I am going to try to see a doctor. Every single word you said I resonate with. I too, was one who put everyone and everything first. I had no time to take care of me, and, of course, nobody else is going to. We had a busy little family, two budding careers and life should have been great, but both of us adults became ill. No wonder. My advice is this. Material things can actually get in the way of happiness, it happens all of the time, unfortunately. Those closest to us actually follow our lead. If we honor and respect ourselves first, so do they. Children are learning who to honor and respect first everyday. Today, I realize the mistake, and maybe too late. Exhausting, but I now live for me first, then the kids and grands. That made so much sense, my life seems like one endless service to others- work, kids, house, friends, family. I get cross and resentful and then instantly guilty. I have no social life, but constantly find excuses not to do something about it. It feels like a spiral. Again I am sorry if I am bugging anyone. But, I need to say this. I have a house to run and young children to look after. It is a chemical imbalance. You can be having the best fricken time, be in the middle of a situation you totally love and feel comfortable and that you are achieving something and then BAM! Like getting shot in the head. All of the sudden the cloud descends on you, the world is dark and you are very much alone. The only respite that I have learned is to embrace the darkness. Revel in the solitude of depression. Truly enjoy your cocoon and your distance that you have. I say, bitch. You can be depressed until Thursday. Enjoy the cocoon, the ugly, the not having to respond or go anywhere; even if you do you are not there. Then you snap out of it. We own it. We can give it the time that it needs, give it the space to absorb our life, but, ultimately we take ourselves back and we live our life with kindness, grace, understanding and love. Wow, everything and I mean everything about your comment is me!! It drives me down deeper but somehow I pull myself out…. I defiantly am like this. For my family, I put myself on the line for them noatter what and am always trying to be good to them, even though they just want me to be happy. Sometimes I get better, but these feeling just keep coming back. All my past does is just haunts me. I go through each day, just wanting to do nothing because I feel nothing matters. If I change, so what? Hell, this comment will probably be overlooked and never seen but damnit I want to get this off my chest. I feel like worthless scum because I have no motivation to do anything because in the end nothing matters. Hell the only thing I can truly recall giving me something to be happy about was family and friends, and even that was more of passing the time. I hate myself, and I hate my life. Hey No Body. I see you. What you wrote — I can totally relate. I cry all the time and nothing has meaing. I used to think that if only I could see the sun set, then that day would be worth living. Now… Well… Things seem so empty. Sometimes I feel better. When I find that I am in the moment. Those are the ok times. Being in water can help. Go swimming in the ocean or in a lake, if you live near one. Look at the horizon and feel the water around your body. Try to think back on a moment you felt ok. Play it over in your mind. A moment like that will happen again. For me too. They just seem so far between. Thinking of you. Chin up. No Body, I see you as well. I say ocean because I have a feeling that there are a lot of us rowing around aimlessly, not knowing where to go, who to talk with about what we are feeling, looking for that one thing that is going to show us the way back to shore. I never respond to comments. Because your words affected me. They made me feel, made me realize I am not all alone in this struggle. Someone else gets it! It may sound strange but, that thought, of not being alone, me feel so happy. Not because I want others to feel depressed and alone, but because it means I am not the only one. A beacon on the shore that is calling out to be found. I am right there with you my friend! I have faith that we can all get to that shore. You are stronger than you think. I am not good with words like most of the other people that have left comments. I am hoping that by admitting that I am in a very similar boat with a major leak and no life jackets on board…I am not alone. Thank you all for sharing your comments. I have felt those exact same feelings: Then I feel guilty because I know others have problems that are real and they deal with them and still do more than I do. I have been depressed off and on my whole life. There was always someone in my life who, I told myself, would be way too devastated if I ever harmed myself. When I was younger, it was my father; later it was my kids. My father has passed away and my kids are grown with lives of their own. We are not close. So I continue to struggle. Thanks for your comment and being brave enough to write out what you feel. So thank you and know that, as others have said, there are a lot of us out there who feel like you do, and we care even in our own sadness. Me too. Same here!! I feel like a different person in front of others and different when i am alone. In front others I am jolly, happy-go- lucky, smart and confident girl. But i am not like that. I act happy but im not happy. But there is no reason for me to be sad. No fucking reason. I have the best family, best friends, best grades. I am the class topper. Everyone says i am smart and beautiful. Almost all the boys in my class and bus like me. But i hate myself. I feel like no one deserves to be related with me. And i am ONLY 12!!!! I recognize this very well, and am just hovering above it. Same with me, took a year off to write and then returned to a daily job. And publishing, or writing for a living is not my idea of writing. I am in the same boat as you. I hope one day the world will be an easier place to live in filled with love and simplicity, and less of materialistic bullshit. A psychiatrist can prescribe medication to manage depression, but keep in mind that this is only a temporary solution. Medication alone will not solve your problems, so it is still important to work with a therapist and work on specific concerns. There are many varieties of medication out there, and you may need to try several before you find one that works. Talk to your psychiatrist often about how your new medication is working, and about side effects you've noticed. A combination of medication and therapy may be the most effective treatment, especially for teenagers. Practice meditation or prayer. When you're upset, visit a quiet, private place. Natural surroundings work especially well. Sit down and focus on deep, slow breathing. Many people learn to improve their mood through meditation or prayer. Whenever I tell my friends that I am depressed and having urges to kill myself, they say I'm being stupid and then they slap me. What should I do? Paul Chernyak, LPC. Stop talking to these "Friends" and seek professional help if you have suicidal urges. Also seek out support both online and locally through support groups and mental health organizations. Yes No. Not Helpful 26 Helpful This is abuse. Don't listen to them. You need to talk to someone about this, a counselor, someone at school if you are young. You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of talk. You may have to sever ties completely with the members of your family who say these things to you. Not Helpful 38 Helpful These aren't real friends, and you are worth better than that. Seek out the people who will support you and are positive. Their actions are not reflective of your own worth, but instead show how shallow and mean they are. Keep strong. Not Helpful Helpful It is hurtful when no one answers you, but if you are with people who do not answer, then they are not worth worrying about, move on to someone who will. Not Helpful 84 Helpful Be yourself, stop being a people pleaser and realize when you're trying too hard to conform to other people's expectations. If you enjoy wearing or doing certain activities that people judge you by, simply take no notice of them. You deserve to have other people know who you really are. Not Helpful 62 Helpful Approach them and ask them why they're treating you that way. Or just keep your distance from them and find better friends who respect you. Not Helpful 66 Helpful I know my friend cares about me and has shown it, but she's changed. However, I just can't let her go! What should I do now? Explain to her how you're feeling about her changed actions and see how she reacts to your statement, which will make your decision easier. Not Helpful 12 Helpful I feel really worthless and sad all the time. How can I raise my spirits? Stop thinking about the negativities of your life and start making goals. Start loving yourself and don't waste your time on people who don't care about you. Not Helpful 88 Helpful What should I do when my friends don't listen to me and just judge me? I already tried auto suggestion that I am pretty and smart and well deserved but the reality shows me something very different. Annie, My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I was struck by the eighteenth sentence you wrote above — if that is true, you might be interested in this article about the scientifically-supported study of positive emotions and thought, and your power over creating them. Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities. When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible. I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months. When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that. I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them? Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top — and that is exactly where they are! I was one of those victims. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children. A throw-away age that also includes people. In fact, I think they should change. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. They seem to b crazy about me and then all of a sudden.. The wicked thought am going to die lonely and afraid keeps reoccurring!! This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. To me, this makes a lot more organic sense than doing battle with ourselves. Most of us have had enough of that— and these aspects are trying to help us, not hurt us. My mother died 3 years ago and I have no contact with my father. I have very few friends and am becoming so lonely I just wish life would hurry up and end. I work full time and even though my manager and team mates always praise me I feel excluded and different and the more lonely I become the more difficult I find it to talk to people. I spend most weekends alone in the house. I have borderline personality disorder and the voice has completely taken over. It keeps me inside a lot of the time and I have no opportunities to make friends. Hope you get to come and read this. Hope you and the baby is going well. What caught my attention most about your comment is when you talk about losing your personality because I have been there. I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. I am getting much better but still battle with these emotions and feel that God Is showing me that I will never truly find happiness trying to relate to people. I have lived by myself twice and which people and in all my cases this feeling of loneliness never died. Now I am about to live on my own again and I am prepping myself to deal with the thoughts of loneliness that I know that I will feel. Just recently after all these years of my father not being in my life I just found out that he committed suicide a couple of years back and it has also made me deal with myself a lot because many years of negative through will take you to a very bad place. I refuses to let the devil get in that much and it will always start with people. While I do believe that we can find truly loving worth while people and connections in life it can take a life time and depends on the quality of selection. I am still healing and moving foward and still a lot if defeating thoughts of not being liked or feeling alone but I do put more effect of talking myself off of the ledge. I do have a partner but I am not always happy with the attention or quality time that I am getting and still contemplate about letting the relationship go. My of these concepts of live and connecting with people that we learn are illusions that turn into delusions over all it is about balance. I have had the same experiences in life. At work people will talk about going to happy hour right in front of me and never invite me! Right now my boss only included my coworker in meetings, planning, and we do the same exact job. I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome. I have a heck of a time connecting with people. I too noticed that some people who no one likes because of bad behavior are included. I think it is because while they r annoying, they are real, alive, and connecting with others. Knowing there is a reason for my angst has helped. Wow…and I thought I was possesed or that I had a sign on my back that warned others to stay away from me! Well I feel better now knowing that all you good and sensitive people are senceing what I am. For years I have made myself available for errands and household repairs only to discover that my suspicions were correct.. I WAS being snubbed. So I discovered that my inner self respect was being replaced by an inner being that was insecure and lonely. Make no mistake…there are really mean people in this world that can really mess with your head, and these types travel in groups. My so-called girlfriend must be really insecure if she must team up with her control freak siblings in badmouthing me behind my back. It hurt…a lot. For what its worth…Try with all your loving might to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you and respects you…that person is first and foremost YOU. I doubted myself and really believed that I was less valuable than those around me. I cried. I withdrew. My mind went to dark and self destructive places. As a Christian I prayed but I could not feel better about being me. Slowly the haze started to clear as I learned to not feel responsible for the captious comments of others. What I do now is consider the source of my hurt feelings. I am responsible for alot of them but not all, and I am careful of what I take serious when I hear vicious rumors. Thanks for sharing…You are all in my prayers. Jane…you are an awesome person! Hugs and God Bless You! No one wants me around including my wife of 25 yrs. And many of us Good men really Hate being Single too. I m pursuing degree course i dnt like to meet relatives. It make me feel they will ask questions or what they want. I feel so i think because i m nt beautiful nt yet got a degree i older than my freinds. It makes me feel so much better to see that so many other good people have had similar experiences. I do want to throw in that if you are friendly and nice and positive and people still seem to avoid inviting you in, it may be the very fact that you feel you need so much for them to like you. People sense that and they may become afraid, consciously or not, that if they give you reassurance you will cling to them and demand more and more, which is very daunting if they are already having to work hard to maintain their own confidence. Then all will be attracted to you! I am so apparently UGLY that those men not only felt the need to laugh at me whilst looking at me, but point at me too whilst saying nasty, hurtful things. Makeup is my mask. If only I were even slightly pretty, maybe then I could start to get close to someone to stand the chance of them seeing me for me. Faye, I have felt attracted to women who I thought were ugly when I first met them months, days, hours before the attraction started. I feel soo unwanted unloved and useless my husband has an OCD problem he fights with me everyday over household chores, he makes me feel like i can do nothing right. I really try to hard to be a good wife give him all the love and support. When i try show him affection he always pulls away. Because of this i feel soo lonely, unwanted and useless. Before we were married everything was perfect he was loving and caring. I thought i have found someone that would make me feel special, loved. All my life i felt unwanted useless ugly and worthless and after being married all those feelings have crept back. We argue all the time its physically draining. I am kidding myself thinking our marriage can be salvaged? I feel so isolated. Your relationship sounds alot like the last one I was in. Your husband is abusive. No one should have to fight all the time. When you feel like you never do anything right. He is gaslighting you. Please read about it,find a support group and get out. Sarah is right…this sounds like an abusive relationship. Look up Passive-Aggressive. A lot of what I have read in the lead article I can definitely relate to, the self-doubt and circumstances under which it arises. I decided to keep quiet. In short, I had and still am, a loner. I suppose I will always be as I am, maybe the feeling I have about myself are ingrained just too deep. Its hard to be liked. I try to put myself to be outgoing and coolish but i feel likei get hurt and treated badly so i hide. My mom, dad, with the rest of my family dont like me its all pretend happy when they see me but they all hate me even at work im not noticed. Im only noticed when someone tries to use me which is sad depressing. I really am not sure what to do next. I moved back home after a long term illness and on top of it all I was attacked and put into a coma for about 6 weeks. This got really bad to the point where I was even violently attacked. The only thing I ever wanted was to be left alone. Before I got better from my sickness I decided to start working from home and before I knew I was in my own office and growing a business. I knew that the next attack would be from my own family. Because apart from the people who work for me, there are no other humans who I come into contact with. I have just discovered that my own mother has been spreading the vilest rumors about me.. My parents were abusive when I was a child. My father was the physical one while she would just use mental abuse. It is like the more successful I am in my business the harder she has tried to break me mentally. And usually she uses my business as a target for her attacks.. Which is ridiculous as she knows nothing about it. Kinda like the cleaning lady telling the MD that his or her company is a failure. I think she wishes that it would fail. She has gone out of the country and has been phoning me to taunt and laugh at me over the Christmas and New Year..

Please listen to me…you are very relevant. You had those children for a reason. Second, let go of the mom-hate. I I have no one in my life it too. It consumed me. It changed nothing. I hated…she lived her life. Let it go…smile when you see her, be polite, and let it go. Or maybe you will find a small place that you can turn into a farm…fix it up.

I feel like you really can do this. My dad passed away when I was 16, my mom was not very present after that as she was serverly depressed. I do not blame her whatsoever. I was definitely not a bad kid by any means but I just went into this blurr mode is the only way I can explain it. I lost all emotion to anything sad because nothing could compare to that pain I felt, but I was just trying so hard to make happy moments.

Trying too hard to be happy, and I actually think I was happy! I got pregnant 8 months after my dad passed, had my son and found out I was pregnant with my daughter months later.

I started having pain in my feet during the last months of pregnancy with her but I have no one in my life course I thought it was just because I was pregnant for basically 2 years visit web page. After having her I started my first step in my goal to becoming a nurse, a CNA program.

I finished the program got a I have no one in my life job quick right by my house, it was perfect and was signing up for my pre reqs at the college in the fall. The doctor initially said it was plantar fasciitis, so I started PT 3 times a week, got painful steriod shots that did nothing.

I have no one in my life worked at the retirement home for a month but the last two week I was limping and limping, worse and worse every day! I got around on crutches in excrustiating pain everyday to get to go here desk job, came home to clean the house on my knees and play with my babies. Then, After not being able to walk for 7 months I was finally diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis I have no one in my life 19 with a 2 year old and a 1 year old.

Before all this I was a go go go person, I had goals, dreams, plans for those goals. I just feel numb, numb to everything! My husband works and he works long hours 4 days a week I am a stay at home mom.

All of these things though are just normal life things that I used to be able to work out, figure out and just make shit happen. When I try to talk about it tears just kinda wail up in my eyes and just go mute.

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I have a wonderful husband who loves me and treats me ok, two awesome amazing kids, my only reason I live! I can tell my husband is fed up. Just as everyone else has posted on here, this pretty much fits my description. And yes, I still have always gotten up and fed myself, ran errands, but trapped in my own private hell, which, when left too fester, has often further morphed into anxiety and severe paranoia.

Its debilitating and frustrating for anyone and as an artist, almost unbearable. I punish myself for everything, but especially for not creating.

I am now looking to make click to see more, yoga and CB therapy a part of my life. Thanks so much for the post. I hope mine might help someone else, too. About the only thing I agree with here is that there are various forms of depression. Both are awful; different people just have different responses. I have no one in my life looks like strength can really be a weakness. Hi Alison.

Thank you for your very kind reply. And I would like to apologize for misunderstanding the intent of your post. I have exactly the same hope as you do. Take good care of yourself too. And thank you again for being so kind.

Just to know that there are kind people like you out there is a comfort. Thanks so much for your soft and heart-felt response, Bren. We really are all in this together. I never ever recommend medication. Hi Bren, i have been the walking depressed and still am for years. I believe that the walking depressed is just one step lower than clinically depressed. I am at the point where i no longer want get out of continue reading. Every part of my life is affected.

I can no longer function at my job, my relationship is in terrible shape, i find no joy or happiness in my life. I have my first grandchild and yet i find no happiness there. I know i have had several I have no one in my life life experiences that havd pushed me to this point. Co-worker i cared about died, my boss was let go from his position and just a few months later, i was. Then my mom died and a few months after thar my car was repoed, then a few months after that another good friend died.

I did forget to mention that my uncle killed himself in a store in the middle of all this. There is no offense. There are levels of depression and there are levels that the individual can handle. We all just need for everyone to know that this is real and that we need real help and not to looked down upon. We are not alone I have no one in my life you can see with all the posts.

Yes I am among the walking depressed. I just turned 60 and so many regrets and deep loneliness. I see no way out. Wherever I run I take me with me. Hi Carol Your post brought tears to my eyes. I guess because I feel affinity with you. Life just goes so fast. I do get on with it but like you I am full of regret right now. I am I have a demanding job which completely drains me to a point where I have no life any more. That has become such a huge pain for me now it I have no one in my life see more to bear.

I just see no way out. There is no way back. I will never have a family of my own. What was I thinking of. I am a leader at work and noone would know I feel like I have no one in my life. But I have no one in my life you all. For sharing. Love to you all. I hope you can find a parent or teacher or someone who you can talk to about this. You deserve to be happy. I used to draw or write stories while listening to music during school to get through it.

Sex ferie Watch Video Undressing pussy. I feel that is is very easy for people to abuse this strength of ours. Cause that is how I see it, a curse, and a strength at the same time. I am currently in a rough situation after coming out of a 12yr relationship that left me completely drained and empty. Any contact that I have with them is because I initiate it. It makes me feel even more unloved. It makes me incredibly said that the only emotional outlet available to me, is one that I need to pay for: You are understood, at least, by me. Lounik, try to get away from having to lie. Remember that humans used to live in groups of or less—Imagine how few people of our age group there used to be! Now we at least have internet so you can discuss your interest in a group or something. Unfortunately it seems that the more you give to a loved one the more they take, the less you ask for the less they give to you. I know exactly how this feels. My band is Annie and My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. I was never popular but had some friends. I did sports and piano too. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. I moved to US when I was I finished my BS in biology and got into pharmacy school and got my doctorate degree there. People sitting next to my ask about medications from someone else and ignoring me as a drug expert. Recently our friend finish her nursing degree which is only 2 year program and all of the sudden everybody listens to her advise and completely ignoring me. Sometimes it brings a teat to my eyes. I know and feel very competent and my decisions always been excellent in my career but somehow people just ignore me. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. People sometimes think me and my 13 year old daughter ate sisters. I try to read and educate myself, increase my self esteem, be positive but nothing changes in my life. I cry sometimes because I feel very very lonely insight. I try very hard to please everybody all the time. I take my parents and my daughter to Europe every year for vacation, I put my daughter to private school since she was pre-schooler , I try to surprise my family with nice gifts but inside I feel very empty. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. My parents do their best for me, help me with my daughter and give me love but I still feel very empty. I think not being able to meet any guy who would show an interest in my really bothers me a lot. When I go to parties or professional mixers I stay completely invisible. I already tried auto suggestion that I am pretty and smart and well deserved but the reality shows me something very different. Annie, My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I was struck by the eighteenth sentence you wrote above — if that is true, you might be interested in this article about the scientifically-supported study of positive emotions and thought, and your power over creating them. Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities. When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible. I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months. When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that. I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them? Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top — and that is exactly where they are! I was one of those victims. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children. A throw-away age that also includes people. In fact, I think they should change. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. They seem to b crazy about me and then all of a sudden.. The wicked thought am going to die lonely and afraid keeps reoccurring!! This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. To me, this makes a lot more organic sense than doing battle with ourselves. Most of us have had enough of that— and these aspects are trying to help us, not hurt us. My mother died 3 years ago and I have no contact with my father. I have very few friends and am becoming so lonely I just wish life would hurry up and end. I work full time and even though my manager and team mates always praise me I feel excluded and different and the more lonely I become the more difficult I find it to talk to people. I spend most weekends alone in the house. I have borderline personality disorder and the voice has completely taken over. It keeps me inside a lot of the time and I have no opportunities to make friends. Hope you get to come and read this. Hope you and the baby is going well. What caught my attention most about your comment is when you talk about losing your personality because I have been there. I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. I am getting much better but still battle with these emotions and feel that God Is showing me that I will never truly find happiness trying to relate to people. I have lived by myself twice and which people and in all my cases this feeling of loneliness never died. Now I am about to live on my own again and I am prepping myself to deal with the thoughts of loneliness that I know that I will feel. Just recently after all these years of my father not being in my life I just found out that he committed suicide a couple of years back and it has also made me deal with myself a lot because many years of negative through will take you to a very bad place. I refuses to let the devil get in that much and it will always start with people. While I do believe that we can find truly loving worth while people and connections in life it can take a life time and depends on the quality of selection. I am still healing and moving foward and still a lot if defeating thoughts of not being liked or feeling alone but I do put more effect of talking myself off of the ledge. I do have a partner but I am not always happy with the attention or quality time that I am getting and still contemplate about letting the relationship go. My of these concepts of live and connecting with people that we learn are illusions that turn into delusions over all it is about balance. I have had the same experiences in life. At work people will talk about going to happy hour right in front of me and never invite me! Right now my boss only included my coworker in meetings, planning, and we do the same exact job. I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome. I have a heck of a time connecting with people. I too noticed that some people who no one likes because of bad behavior are included. I think it is because while they r annoying, they are real, alive, and connecting with others. Knowing there is a reason for my angst has helped. Wow…and I thought I was possesed or that I had a sign on my back that warned others to stay away from me! Well I feel better now knowing that all you good and sensitive people are senceing what I am. For years I have made myself available for errands and household repairs only to discover that my suspicions were correct.. I WAS being snubbed. So I discovered that my inner self respect was being replaced by an inner being that was insecure and lonely. Make no mistake…there are really mean people in this world that can really mess with your head, and these types travel in groups. My so-called girlfriend must be really insecure if she must team up with her control freak siblings in badmouthing me behind my back. It hurt…a lot. For what its worth…Try with all your loving might to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you and respects you…that person is first and foremost YOU. I doubted myself and really believed that I was less valuable than those around me. I cried. I withdrew. My mind went to dark and self destructive places. As a Christian I prayed but I could not feel better about being me. Slowly the haze started to clear as I learned to not feel responsible for the captious comments of others. What I do now is consider the source of my hurt feelings. I am responsible for alot of them but not all, and I am careful of what I take serious when I hear vicious rumors. Thanks for sharing…You are all in my prayers. Jane…you are an awesome person! Hugs and God Bless You! No one wants me around including my wife of 25 yrs. And many of us Good men really Hate being Single too. I m pursuing degree course i dnt like to meet relatives. It make me feel they will ask questions or what they want. I feel so i think because i m nt beautiful nt yet got a degree i older than my freinds. It makes me feel so much better to see that so many other good people have had similar experiences. I do want to throw in that if you are friendly and nice and positive and people still seem to avoid inviting you in, it may be the very fact that you feel you need so much for them to like you. People sense that and they may become afraid, consciously or not, that if they give you reassurance you will cling to them and demand more and more, which is very daunting if they are already having to work hard to maintain their own confidence. Then all will be attracted to you! I am so apparently UGLY that those men not only felt the need to laugh at me whilst looking at me, but point at me too whilst saying nasty, hurtful things. Makeup is my mask. If only I were even slightly pretty, maybe then I could start to get close to someone to stand the chance of them seeing me for me. Faye, I have felt attracted to women who I thought were ugly when I first met them months, days, hours before the attraction started. I feel soo unwanted unloved and useless my husband has an OCD problem he fights with me everyday over household chores, he makes me feel like i can do nothing right. I really try to hard to be a good wife give him all the love and support. When i try show him affection he always pulls away. Because of this i feel soo lonely, unwanted and useless. Before we were married everything was perfect he was loving and caring. I thought i have found someone that would make me feel special, loved. All my life i felt unwanted useless ugly and worthless and after being married all those feelings have crept back. We argue all the time its physically draining. I have no hope, no goals, no plans for the future. I am not even sure why I was even born. I have tried to become something in my life but all I ever succeeded at was being a failure. I have no accomplishments, nothing to be proud of. My kids are my life, without them I have no reason to live. It is a struggle to get up in the mornings, getting out of bed and even go about the day. My mom verbally abused me growing up. I tried my whole life to prove her wrong, and ended up proving her right. I used to be strong and get on with the day, but now as I am older, no so much. It interferes with my job, and my kids. There is no hope for me, no point in trying. I am a failure, a nothing and always will be. It sounds like you are tired in this post. When I get tired, the words others have used to define me often come out of my own mouth. There is no easy cure for thinking we are worthless…I hope that you find evidence of your worth even before you start looking for it. Many blessings to you, you belong here. I know exactly how you feel. Every word. Except even my grown children have quit coming around. I have nothing, I am nothing, will never. No friends. I search for happiness, I look for something to be fun, but fail each and every time. Have given up and just wait to die. I sometimes feel the way you do….. As humans, we are very subjective of ourselves, but God sees so much more in us. Please hang in there and put God first, he will never forsake YOU! Everything makes me irritated and I lash out more than I can imagine. No more me being a miserable bitch and no more pain. I wish I had an answer. I could have written your post myself. I was suicidal and depressed growing up, gave myself a new start in high school, dated someone for 5 years, tried to break up after 3 and finally married him after feeling that all relationships were destined to be unhappy as his parents and men seemed to be. Eleven years after meeting him, we had our first child, three years later, the second. My parents made me feel that giving birth was the only time I had ever done anything worthy of their approval. My children became my life, my husband withdrew. I was treated for depression several times with each treatment feeling my husband pull further away. Seventeen years after meeting him, I met the right therapist who made me aware that I was married to a functioning alcoholic which finally made me feel the tension in our marriage was not entirely my fault everything seemed to be my fault as I was growing up-my parents made that quite clear. I divorced, taking my kids with me, in hopes of protecting them. They never believed their dad was an alcoholic, they were in the midst of their teenage angst period and I got no emotional support from the ex. I met someone who filled all the emptiness I felt and became engaged. This was when my life went from barely tolerable to extremely happy to utterly unbearable. My kids had refused to have anything to do with me, the environment was toxic and the divorce settlement forced me to sell my house. I had to move away, the kids wanted to stay with my parents because their dad lived an hour away. I had to turn custody over to my ex so that he would be forced to finally play a role in their lives. Here I am now, ten years after the separation, six years living out of the area and desperately trying to reconcile with my kids. I even hate myself for writing this post. I too could have written your post silentcry. I am tired…just so amazingly, horribly life sucking tired. My mother favored my brother my whole life. Nothing I could do was ever good enough. Nothing could make her proud. I was close with my father, but he worked a lot and was hardly ever home. About a year ago I gave up trying to make my mom proud of me and ever since I am numb. Inside I loathe myself and my decisions. I hate this!!!!! I want to have goals again. I want to dream. I want to try again. But most of all I want to remember what it is to have FUN again. I used to be so fun. I used to have so much fun. My deepest desire is to have a small farm with a huge garden and animal where my children can explore and I can be free. Living in this one bedroom apartment is like a prison. There is no way out. There is no knight in shining armor, There is no second chance — we are doomed by our mistakes. I am trapped. I hate him. I hate that I have to do this all by myself. My kids are all that keeps me from killing myself. When my mother dies I will not cry. My brother became the man she believed he would, and I became the loser she thought I was. I know for a fact that if she had treated me as equal to him that my life would be dramatically different. I am trapped…. You actually sound very successful to me. Move to a farm in the country, take your kids to a farm nearby, or just go exercise and be in the sun. Do what you want and share it with your kids if you can. You all deserve it! Tired…that is exactly what I would have called myself, had you not. I too am tired…a little differently though. Specifically to what you wrote though…my life was similar. The kids are grown. Please listen to me…you are very relevant. You had those children for a reason. Second, let go of the mom-hate. I had it too. It consumed me. It changed nothing. I hated…she lived her life. Let it go…smile when you see her, be polite, and let it go. Or maybe you will find a small place that you can turn into a farm…fix it up. I feel like you really can do this. My dad passed away when I was 16, my mom was not very present after that as she was serverly depressed. I do not blame her whatsoever. I was definitely not a bad kid by any means but I just went into this blurr mode is the only way I can explain it. I lost all emotion to anything sad because nothing could compare to that pain I felt, but I was just trying so hard to make happy moments. Trying too hard to be happy, and I actually think I was happy! I got pregnant 8 months after my dad passed, had my son and found out I was pregnant with my daughter months later. I started having pain in my feet during the last months of pregnancy with her but of course I thought it was just because I was pregnant for basically 2 years straight. After having her I started my first step in my goal to becoming a nurse, a CNA program. I finished the program got a CNA job quick right by my house, it was perfect and was signing up for my pre reqs at the college in the fall. The doctor initially said it was plantar fasciitis, so I started PT 3 times a week, got painful steriod shots that did nothing. I worked at the retirement home for a month but the last two week I was limping and limping, worse and worse every day! I got around on crutches in excrustiating pain everyday to get to my desk job, came home to clean the house on my knees and play with my babies. Then, After not being able to walk for 7 months I was finally diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis at 19 with a 2 year old and a 1 year old. Before all this I was a go go go person, I had goals, dreams, plans for those goals. I just feel numb, numb to everything! My husband works and he works long hours 4 days a week I am a stay at home mom. All of these things though are just normal life things that I used to be able to work out, figure out and just make shit happen. When I try to talk about it tears just kinda wail up in my eyes and just go mute. I have a wonderful husband who loves me and treats me ok, two awesome amazing kids, my only reason I live! I can tell my husband is fed up. Just as everyone else has posted on here, this pretty much fits my description. And yes, I still have always gotten up and fed myself, ran errands, but trapped in my own private hell, which, when left too fester, has often further morphed into anxiety and severe paranoia. Its debilitating and frustrating for anyone and as an artist, almost unbearable. I punish myself for everything, but especially for not creating. I am now looking to make meditation, yoga and CB therapy a part of my life. Thanks so much for the post. I hope mine might help someone else, too. About the only thing I agree with here is that there are various forms of depression. Both are awful; different people just have different responses. What looks like strength can really be a weakness. Hi Alison. Thank you for your very kind reply. And I would like to apologize for misunderstanding the intent of your post. I have exactly the same hope as you do. Take good care of yourself too. And thank you again for being so kind. Just to know that there are kind people like you out there is a comfort. Thanks so much for your soft and heart-felt response, Bren. We really are all in this together. I never ever recommend medication. Hi Bren, i have been the walking depressed and still am for years. I believe that the walking depressed is just one step lower than clinically depressed. I am at the point where i no longer want get out of bed. Every part of my life is affected. I can no longer function at my job, my relationship is in terrible shape, i find no joy or happiness in my life. I have my first grandchild and yet i find no happiness there. I know i have had several bad life experiences that havd pushed me to this point. Co-worker i cared about died, my boss was let go from his position and just a few months later, i was. Then my mom died and a few months after thar my car was repoed, then a few months after that another good friend died. I did forget to mention that my uncle killed himself in a store in the middle of all this. There is no offense. There are levels of depression and there are levels that the individual can handle. We all just need for everyone to know that this is real and that we need real help and not to looked down upon. We are not alone as you can see with all the posts. Yes I am among the walking depressed. I just turned 60 and so many regrets and deep loneliness. I see no way out. Wherever I run I take me with me. Hi Carol Your post brought tears to my eyes. I guess because I feel affinity with you. Life just goes so fast. I do get on with it but like you I am full of regret right now.. I am I have a demanding job which completely drains me to a point where I have no life any more. That has become such a huge pain for me now it is hard to bear. I just see no way out. There is no way back. I will never have a family of my own. What was I thinking of. I am a leader at work and noone would know I feel like this. But thank you all. For sharing. Love to you all. I hope you can find a parent or teacher or someone who you can talk to about this. You deserve to be happy. I used to draw or write stories while listening to music during school to get through it. My biggest hurdle is me, and that is the saddest part of it all. It is easier for me to blame circumstances, other people, etc. HI you cant run away from yourself but you can learn to love and like your self. There is only one of you dont run from your self face up to your demons. You deserve to be here. Love and much light Deborah xxx. Yes Carol. I know that now…that trying to run to some phantom of ultimate happiness made no diff. In fact my life is nearly in utter ruins. My burning brain is filled with regrets, sadness of a passing life to which no second chances will ever be offered. I wish…. I wish…I wish…. This is very good insight. I found it very helpful. Also… your borders. Those are DNA bands from a electrophoresis gel? Art and Science are not worlds apart. Instead of art on one end of the spectrum and science on the other… Think of the spectrum as a circle. Where art ends, science begins, and where science ends, art begins. I agree that art and science are much more integrated than most people think, and I love both. I believe that low grade depression existed in different ways over much of life until which turned to severe depression. I since have stabilized and I have been on meds and I believe that low grade depression is apparent. I just turned 19, and ive been feeling this way all the way throughout high school. I just noticed last year that I was depressed, but not depression itself but at this point in time all these points are how im feeling …. Everything here struck a chord with how I feel. I even drove the woman home. Why take her last bit of happiness. I do my day to day, but more and more, the few people who see my regularly have been noticing that I look tired and distant, and I hate that they are finally noticing because I am losing my grip on the facade that is my life. Nothing I used to enjoy makes me happy and I have become more and more hostile toward the people I once cared for. Am I suicidal? Will I ever follow through? I view it as cowardice. I feel under appreciated and like my kindness and helpfulness have been taken advantage of my entire life, and now that I am refusing to help others without getting anything in return, mentally, physically, or monetarily, I am being treated like the bad guy. I supposed I should digress. Your story really hit home with me, as we are in very similar mind states. My situation is the same as Peter Gibbons in Office Space. I work an office job kind of like that…and every monotonous day gets worse. Every day you see me is pretty much the worst day of my life. Hopefully we will both eventually find happiness within ourselves. Although I feel the same way as you, I can say you are not a worthless robot. I have to believe that. Like Alison, I am a writer. But have a published? Have I even finished anything? Tried for six years to change the work situation to no avail. When do I get to be happy? What I do at night is put YouTube on phone or tv or some device and make sure it is a long one and listen to something. Before I know it morning is here. Then I just want to continue sleeping but at least I slept. I look forward to night time now because I like listening and I know I will sleep. Evan just getting in bed and looking up things on phone is good. Right now I need to close down and listen to a couple hrs of health truth youtubers and sleep. This is me, too. I swear I am a walking depressive. I was putting up a front and have been for years. On and off, these feelings come back. And now, they are back, almost permanently. Most days are a drag. His mood affects everyone, including me in the house. Even my friends and some family, have noticed my state of mind and have told me that they notice I am stuck. But always tell me that I am not stuck and that I can change. Does anyone ever really overcome this. I have suffered different levels of depression for just about my entire life. It started at about 9 after my parents divorce, my fathers death, my mother handing me over to my insane step father actually her long term boy friend to be his personal slave for a place to live and food to eat well into my twenties. My life has been a challenging marathon, I cannot find even one time in my entire life where I have experienced joy or happiness. Three years of psycho dynamic psycho therapy and nero feedback actually made it all worse and so much clearer. I have never taken anything but natural things to help. Now at 53 I just ask the universe to please take me home, I am done here. I get up and try to carry on each day because it is expected. My mother died 2 years ago, my insane step thing is still in my life, my 25 year marriage is over, I do Reiki, and practice gratitude daily. For me life holds no joy, no meaning, nothing. I just wait patiently not to have to endure this thing we call living any more and will be very grateful when it is over. I am beyond surprised to find someone that is or had experienced the same thoughts I have everyday. I am on meds but perhaps they need adjustment. All I know is that I feel meaningless each and every day. I semi-ask the universe to end my time here. To let me out so that I can find some kind of relief. I am sad, I am tired, nothing holds meaning anymore except my children and grandchildren. They are the only reason I stick around this godforsaken planet. I did what I was supposed to for 30 years. I raised my kids, I had a limited career because of single parenting and now that I am over 50, I am invisible. Older women are constantly compared to younger women and encouraged to make themselves appear younger if at all possible. I suffer pain from my disc disease and it makes me think or fantasize abt suicide although I would never do it. I can understand why my cousins did. The downside of Facebook groups: Although this process might be tricky, it can be worth it when you find the right one. When I cut off contact with my family, I felt like none of my friends could relate. I searched Facebook until I found a couple groups that seemed to match what I was going through. Pets are also great ice-breakers, and bringing your furry pal along when you leave the house might make socializing a little easier. As Mighty member Melissa A. They can give the unconditional love and support that humans are unable to provide. If reading can get us out of our heads for a little while… a book club is the irl in real life equivalent. If talking about books in person if not your thing, you can also find virtual book clubs. For example, BuzzFeed just launched a book club. You can also find a list of book clubs on GoodReads here. If you do need a space safe to talk about your mental health, fear not. Support groups are an amazing way to both seek mental health support and connect with people. You can explore categories that range from outdoor adventures to film. Seek therapy. Therapy is an effective treatment for depression, recommended by many experts and organizations. You might need to try out several therapists before you find one that you are comfortable with. Give it time to work. Many people visit a therapist weekly for six to twelve months. Consider medication. A psychiatrist can prescribe medication to manage depression, but keep in mind that this is only a temporary solution. Medication alone will not solve your problems, so it is still important to work with a therapist and work on specific concerns. There are many varieties of medication out there, and you may need to try several before you find one that works. Talk to your psychiatrist often about how your new medication is working, and about side effects you've noticed. A combination of medication and therapy may be the most effective treatment, especially for teenagers. Practice meditation or prayer. When you're upset, visit a quiet, private place. Natural surroundings work especially well. Sit down and focus on deep, slow breathing. Many people learn to improve their mood through meditation or prayer. Whenever I tell my friends that I am depressed and having urges to kill myself, they say I'm being stupid and then they slap me. What should I do? Paul Chernyak, LPC. Stop talking to these "Friends" and seek professional help if you have suicidal urges. Also seek out support both online and locally through support groups and mental health organizations. Yes No. Not Helpful 26 Helpful This is abuse. Don't listen to them. You need to talk to someone about this, a counselor, someone at school if you are young. You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of talk. You may have to sever ties completely with the members of your family who say these things to you. Not Helpful 38 Helpful These aren't real friends, and you are worth better than that. Seek out the people who will support you and are positive. Their actions are not reflective of your own worth, but instead show how shallow and mean they are. Keep strong. Not Helpful Helpful It is hurtful when no one answers you, but if you are with people who do not answer, then they are not worth worrying about, move on to someone who will. Not Helpful 84 Helpful Be yourself, stop being a people pleaser and realize when you're trying too hard to conform to other people's expectations. If you enjoy wearing or doing certain activities that people judge you by, simply take no notice of them. You deserve to have other people know who you really are. Not Helpful 62 Helpful Approach them and ask them why they're treating you that way. Or just keep your distance from them and find better friends who respect you. Not Helpful 66 Helpful I know my friend cares about me and has shown it, but she's changed. However, I just can't let her go! What should I do now? Explain to her how you're feeling about her changed actions and see how she reacts to your statement, which will make your decision easier. Not Helpful 12 Helpful .

My biggest hurdle is me, and that is the saddest part of it all. It is easier for me to blame circumstances, other people, etc. HI you cant run away from yourself but you can learn to love and like your self.

Sex tiel Watch Video Bigst Pussy. Bella, I totally understand what you are going through. I went through the same thing at My husband at the time cheated on me. I also had his Neice and nephew living with us. I was so depressed and resentful that he left me. I still am I have never been the same. I rarely experience joy in my life. But my worst mistake was taking it out on my oldest boy. And I was so strict and so hard on him. PLEASE if you only do one thing to change, love your son him, include him, talk to him, do not take it out on him. It will ruin his life. Your depression with transfer to him. He will resent you. I was a good mother but I did take a lot out on my son, and I am paying for it big time. He is 31 and I He is depressed, lost, he takes it out on me now. When I would do anything to have a relationship with him. Figure out how to deal with him. He is hurting as much as you are. I am still depressed. When someone causes that much harm to you. It must change your brain if your predisposed to it. But they both recently had to move far away from me. One for work the other for the armed forces. I am remarried but, he has cheated on me but I am totally dependent on him. He has given all to my kids. I am perfectly content lying on the couch not going out for days. Which is very sad. I used to be up early and a very happy person. All I meant to say was try to change your behavior towards your son before that becomes another battle you have to fight and feel guilty about. Feel just like you do. My son is the spitting image of his dad. I know this has put some distance between us…I just am not good at pretending. I do love him, so much…but I feel he senses the resistance. I feel similar to Bella. I know I need to complete a book I have been trying to write for years, but depression holds me back. I went through a break up because my ex was absolutely awful and she was a serial cheater. I tried so many things to help this woman, but she just lived by lies. Interestingly enough, she blame shifts everything on me. Some how I am horrible because I caught her in the lies. As if I really wanted to be in the position to catch her cheating. Never an apology or anything just says she can never forgive me. I am definitely depressed and have tried dating again, but it is awful. In addition, my heart seems to be completely numb. I do not have the emotional strength to deal with their demands and crazy mind bending, distorted attempts to begin a relationship. I just can not trust any women anymore. I just hope this passes soon. I can relate but I wish no death upon no one. There will be better days ahead I promise. I look at women like that like a blessing I know that sounds weird. I mean I love kids and I have a heart but hey find ways to cope there is a light at the end of that tunnel, as they say. Good luck. Wow, are you a fly on the wall at my house? Great insight! I sympathise with your situation — I come from a big family 5 child family and my mother has suffered with depression for as long as i can remember. I have also had severe depression several times in my life genetic? Please can I ask you a personal question? I had a boy very young and he is the only thing in this world that keeps me going. I keep going for my boy. Am not saying dont have kids or have kids! Mum and dad would fight like crazy but we was well taken care of. I was so close to my dad I was angry that he left us mum could not cope. I blamed her for dad leaving I hated her with a passion. Dad had a bad motorbike crash witch left him brain dead and paralysed My world ended I was not you typical teeny was worse. I caught with child when I was 19 I sat in the clinic to get rid … I could not do it. Now I have a wonderful boy sure sometimes I still feel depresses my gran said to me I should not have a child for unconditional love , I then got caught with another child when my lad was 2. He died at 32 weeks he was very poorly. I pushed every one away held my boy I had left even closer. Hun you have children when your ready xx. People may read this and think its unfair to put this on my boy. I know I would not be here of it was not for him. Stay as strong as you can Hun ask for help when you need it. In regards to what Dominic was saying, I too wonder if I should have children while struggling with depression. Depression and anxiety run in both sides of my family. I would love to become a mother someday, but if depression is indeed genetic and it seems like it is , how can I knowingly inflict such a devastating condition on my own child? My own struggles have utterly wrecked my quality of life as a person, and in a very real way I feel that it would be immoral and irresponsible for me to bring a child into the world because I will either a pass it along to them and set them up for their own miserable torture, b make them witness to my mental illness and possibly scar them for life, or c both. I know some people still debate whether depression is passed down genetically or not, but I feel I have enough evidence to warrant the assumption that it is. I would hate to do this to someone else, especially my own flesh and blood. Thoughts or opinions, please? Any and all sides are welcome. I need advice. Vulnerability to depression has a very large genetic component. You can find many scientific articles on the subject on PubMed. One of the best supported models holds that this genetic risk interacts most strongly with stress, especially childhood stress. When I was 14 in , I experienced major depression and was suicidal off and on for years. I was furious with my parents for not asking precisely your question—it turns out depression runs in my family. People really misunderstand and overrate their own genes anyway. I will hold off until I do. This is so amazing to be aware of. Really wise! Sorry to hear this Chelsea. It is just get worse day by day and sometimes when you are in a good mood you think that you finally got over this diseases but then you would again go back to this rotting hell. I have tried so much over the years but nothing really works permanently. I myself have depression and lost all my friends because of it. I feel life is passing me by and look back in regret. I myself have no one so would be happy to help. I come from a very similar situation as you. Oldest of 4 children with a depressing mom. I too am considering never having kids due to me going in and out of depression. I try to be happy and remember all the good that I have but the sad feeling always seems to come back. I feel distant and lonely most of the time. They never consider to call me. Always getting married and divorced. I was her only child and I was taken along for her ride. I have a hole in my heart from not getting the nurturing, protection and stability I needed to develop proper self-confidence and safety. As another poster wrote, you do NOT want to have a child just so you can get unconditional love. That will blow up in your face when they hit puberty. Which worked when they were little, but eventually they became wise to my act. Being super real with your kids is a transformative, humbling, teaching experience for you and for them. I think if you are drawn to being a parent, be a parent. Get real. Do some inner work. EMDR is a wonderful therapy that can help heal you from your childhood trauma. Nature heals. Meditation is awesome. Having said that, you do NOT have to have it all figured out. You never will. And we will all make mistakes. Be willing to admit them to yourself and to your kids, and your kids will in turn, be honest with you, and trust and respect you. I have been a stay at home mom for the last 23 years. My oldest daughter is happily married and in her 2nd year of teaching. My youngest daughter is a senior in college and thriving. My son is a junior in high school and is a wonderful joy. My life and my joy was raising my children. I am beginning to feel useless now that they are all grown. But the truth is that they all still need me just in different ways. They love me, call me, appreciate me so why do I feel this way? It was a living hell. I was just starting to feel better and then these weepy feelings of missing my days of having young children have crept in. If anyone else has dealt with this please give me some advice. I have dealt with this my entire life! I somehow was able to cope very well and had success in business and then, one day… it all ended! I feel NO joy, NO excitement in going anywhere, spending time w anyone! Please believe me. I wish I had known this four months ago. I suffer from depression and yes, I am a walking depressive. Is that the right word? My husband and I get up around 9 or 10 ish when the kids are home, earlier when they go to school and stay up, usually working, until 3 AM. And I have very little assistance in the medical community. So I muddle through, just like so many others. Then there are those folks like me. Weird, I know. I love my family. I love what I do. There are just these weird times where I want to curl up in a ball, have someone take on the responsibilities and take care of me and everything else. Then I pick myself back up and go at it again. This is totally me. I have fought depression literally my entire life. My dog and I walk every day and I am very busy with work. But I definately need to change jobs. I clean houses and do some home care but I hate it. I found this just by chance. I never knew there was such a thing. Hello Janet. I just saw that you have fibromyalgia. Have you had your vitamin D levels checked recently. A vitamin D deficiency can cause severe muscle aches and joint pain. Check with your doctor and I hope you find relief. Today I am writing down all of your names. I will take you to the beach with me for some quiet time. My hope is that each of us find the support and healing we need, wherever that might be. A friend sent this to me. How are you today? I love this. But this kind? Stop being such a negative Nelly! It helps. You described that perfectly. You just feel stuck. Add me to the list too. There is so much I need to change in my life, and unfortunately my family likes the status quo. They might even be acting against me. Having spent many years in the black cloud, and a just a few in the bright sunshine, I could recognize that I was walking around in a grey fog. I know why, but I have not yet been able to find it in me to do something about it. Ah, you guys are all amazing. Wise Alison and hey, thanks for not dissing meds. Sometimes they are needed. Do you feel better know. I mean its been 4 years already. Thanks for this. I think all the signs are clear. Withdrawling from social contact. Feeling constantly stressed and with no energy, but with no understanding why. I think it really spiraled out of control in the past month after my close friend tragically and suddenly died. He was also just 27 and basically like a brother to me. I try to keep up appearances but doing a worse and worse job. I need to change! I understand where you are coming from. I too, am just 27 and is extremely depressed. I too also lost someone, my father last year. I feel unhappy, and nothing is enjoyable. I absolutely hate everything. Everyday, I live life worrying. I understand what everyone is going through but I feel like I have no one to talk to. You are here for a reson. Life is full of choices. I know this is an old post, but D, you need to ignore the cost, go to a hospital at once, get an MRI, and find out what those lymph nodes are about. My mother passed away from cancer. Swollen lymphs that size are no joking matter. If you see this message, go NOW to a doctor. Money is not worth your life. I do understand and know too well this walking depression. I have had depression for over 30 years now. I have to deal with it every single day of my life. I have tried so many things. I have 4 kids I take care of. Some days I can hide it and others barely hang on. I have come to realize that I was nothing, I am nothing, and always will be nothing. I have no hope, no goals, no plans for the future. I am not even sure why I was even born. I have tried to become something in my life but all I ever succeeded at was being a failure. I have no accomplishments, nothing to be proud of. My kids are my life, without them I have no reason to live. It is a struggle to get up in the mornings, getting out of bed and even go about the day. My mom verbally abused me growing up. I tried my whole life to prove her wrong, and ended up proving her right. I used to be strong and get on with the day, but now as I am older, no so much. It interferes with my job, and my kids. There is no hope for me, no point in trying. I am a failure, a nothing and always will be. It sounds like you are tired in this post. When I get tired, the words others have used to define me often come out of my own mouth. There is no easy cure for thinking we are worthless…I hope that you find evidence of your worth even before you start looking for it. Many blessings to you, you belong here. I know exactly how you feel. Every word. Except even my grown children have quit coming around. I have nothing, I am nothing, will never. No friends. I search for happiness, I look for something to be fun, but fail each and every time. Have given up and just wait to die. I sometimes feel the way you do….. As humans, we are very subjective of ourselves, but God sees so much more in us. Please hang in there and put God first, he will never forsake YOU! Everything makes me irritated and I lash out more than I can imagine. No more me being a miserable bitch and no more pain. I wish I had an answer. I could have written your post myself. I was suicidal and depressed growing up, gave myself a new start in high school, dated someone for 5 years, tried to break up after 3 and finally married him after feeling that all relationships were destined to be unhappy as his parents and men seemed to be. Eleven years after meeting him, we had our first child, three years later, the second. My parents made me feel that giving birth was the only time I had ever done anything worthy of their approval. My children became my life, my husband withdrew. I was treated for depression several times with each treatment feeling my husband pull further away. Seventeen years after meeting him, I met the right therapist who made me aware that I was married to a functioning alcoholic which finally made me feel the tension in our marriage was not entirely my fault everything seemed to be my fault as I was growing up-my parents made that quite clear. I divorced, taking my kids with me, in hopes of protecting them. They never believed their dad was an alcoholic, they were in the midst of their teenage angst period and I got no emotional support from the ex. I met someone who filled all the emptiness I felt and became engaged. This was when my life went from barely tolerable to extremely happy to utterly unbearable. My kids had refused to have anything to do with me, the environment was toxic and the divorce settlement forced me to sell my house. I had to move away, the kids wanted to stay with my parents because their dad lived an hour away. Find new hobbies and friend groups. If you have few friends or close family members, one argument can temporarily destroy your whole support network. Pick up new activities to meet more people, and give you another source of self-worth. Try volunteering. Helping others can be a great way to feel good about yourself. Join a club, a religious organization, or class at a local community college. Practice talking to strangers to get to know them better. Find support online. For times when you have no one to talk to, find a supportive stranger to speak with anonymously. Try Blah Therapy or 7 cups. During a mental health crisis, contact a suicide hotline. These are available through online chat and phones worldwide. Look for your country at Befrienders. Keep a collection of happy memories. When you're depressed, it's hard to notice the positive events in your life. Hugs or supportive conversations may not even feel real to you, or you might forget them a few hours later. Keep these in a journal or box of papers. Add to this whenever someone sends you a happy message or does something nice for you. Read these over the next time you feel like no one cares about you. Expose yourself to happy sources if entertainment. Watching sad movies and television shows are likely to have a negative effect on you. Try to avoid sources of entertainment that are negative or sad, such as the news, sad movies, and depressing TV shows. Instead, watch comedy movies, stand-up comics, and other things that make you laugh. Spend time with animals. Pets can be great allies during hard times, especially dogs. If you don't have a pet yourself, ask a friend or neighbor whether you can walk his dog or visit his cat. Understand your depression. If you often feel hopeless or worthless, you are probably depressed. This is a serious medical condition that needs treatment. The sooner you understand this, the sooner you can find support and improve your well-being. Click here to learn more signs of depression. Join a depression support group. The people in these groups share their experiences, encourage each other, and give advice on how to cope. In the United States, search this map of support groups. There are many online support groups or depression forums as well, including the DBSA alliance , depression-understood. You may even want to look into Youtube channels that deal with depression. This can help you to find a community of people who are having similar experiences. Keep a journal. Take a few minutes each day to unload your thoughts and feelings on paper. Many people find they feel better if they get a chance to "share" private experiences in this way. Over time, the journal can help you identify what affects your mood, and which coping mechanisms help or don't help. Remembering small things like a good cup of coffee or a stranger smiling at you can boost your mood. Make healthy lifestyle changes. Forcing yourself to stick to a regular schedule can help your mood, though this can take a few weeks to kick in. Try to get enough sleep each night, and get up and dressed each morning. Leave the house for at least a short walk. Eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly can lead to a major mood boost. While they may make you feel better in the short term, they often make it harder to fight your depression. If you do need a space safe to talk about your mental health, fear not. Support groups are an amazing way to both seek mental health support and connect with people. You can explore categories that range from outdoor adventures to film. Obviously, meeting up with strangers can be hard. That way, perhaps you can still meet people, but at least your hands will be busy. Oftentimes we have to take care of ourselves before helping others. Find a cause in your community you feel passionate about, and join a team of people who are passionate about giving back. Here are some ways to find volunteer opportunities:. Sign up to get a buddy here. When I first started actively working on building a support system, I tried out several online support sites. My favorite is 7 Cups. Head here and explore the different ways you can connect with people. But hidden amongst the trolls and divisive hashtags are people in the mental health community having amazing conversations — you just need to know where to find them. If you want to meet new people or make your Twitter timeline a little more supportive, the following hashtags are good places to start:. And yet, this exact thought is extremely common to shy people and extroverts alike. A recent U. Moreover, what most of us who feel this sense of isolation also fail to realize is that the reason it is so easy to perceive ourselves as an outcast or to feel rejected, disliked or cast aside has much less to do with our external circumstances and everything to do with an internal critic we all possess. You are six or twelve or fifteen and you look in the mirror and you hear a voice so awful and mean that it takes your breath away. And the scary part is the demon is your own voice. As long as we are listening to this dangerous critic that twists our reality, we cannot really trust our own perceptions of what others think of us. It confuses us with its ceaseless stream of self-shaming observations and self-limiting advice, leaving us anxious and stifled. In turn, it bends us out of shape in such a way that creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. We may even achieve the outcome our critical inner voice warned us about, feeling isolated or finding it difficult to connect with others. No one wants you around. Just be alone! Stop trying. It can be a highly subconscious and seamless part of our thought process, making it hard to recognize. Sometimes, it operates like a subtle, shaded filter through which we perceive the world. Because of this, it can be very difficult to notice that this voice has seeped in and even harder to peel away its sadistic coaching from our true perceptions. The best way to start fighting the critical inner voice is, therefore, to do two things: The critical inner voice starts to take shape early in our lives. If a parent thought of us as lazy, helpless or as a troublemaker, for example, we tend to incorporate these attitudes toward ourselves on an unconscious level throughout our lives. We also tend to be influenced by how our parents felt toward themselves, if they felt awkward socially or had low self-esteem , we take on some of their self-critical perceptions as our own. Add to this the many other social experiences we had where we felt put down, shamed or rejected a teacher who humiliated us in front of our class, a bully at school who put us down on a daily basis , and we can start to see how our inner critic took shape. The critical inner voice strongly influences feelings of isolation, loneliness and social anxiety, a subject you can learn more about here. As Dr. People who feel lonely tend to view the world differently. There are even certain structural and biochemical differences in the lonely brain. Some of the psychological effects of feeling lonely include focusing on exclusion instead of inclusion. Another effect is timidity. We may act timid with others, making it more difficult to have a clear or relaxed exchange that would lead to a positive social outcome. As loneliness researcher Dr. John T. So, once again, in order to challenge our loneliness, we have to challenge the negative filter through which we see ourselves and the world around us. We have to take on our critical inner voice. Once we accept that we come by this inner critic honestly, we can start to separate it from our real point of view. We can notice the times it seeps in and tampers with the filter through which we see ourselves and the world around us. We can then recognize how our actions are affected by this destructive thought process. How is my inner critic actually altering my behavior? There are five important steps to overcoming this inner critic. Robert Firestone known as Voice Therapy. If someone is experiencing feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness or social isolation, it can be extremely beneficial to seek therapy to help sort through where their self-shaming feelings come from and how to challenge them. Going through the steps of voice therapy with a trained therapist can have significant benefits. There are also exercises we can practice on our own that can help us to challenge our critical inner voice. Start to notice when your thought process shifts and your inner critic starts to invade your mind. Why are you wasting your time? Everyone is looking at you. They want you to just shut up. No one likes me. No one likes you. When people write down or say their voices out loud, they sometimes have insight into where these mean thoughts originated. Identifying where your voices may have originally formed can help you to have self-compassion and distinguish these old attitudes from your current reality. This may sound tricky, and this step is often hardest for people, but it is crucial that you stand up for yourself and vocalize or write down a reply to your critical inner voice. I have many qualities that many people would appreciate and like. Sometimes it works. Even demons gotta sleep. You can also start to notice how this voice influences your behavior. It may cause you to feel insecure in your relationship, so you find yourself seeking reassurance from your partner. If it tells you the world is rejecting you, you may find yourself acting a bit angrier in your daily interactions or a whole lot meaner to yourself. Try to take note of all the times your critical inner voice is driving your behavior. As you do this, adopt what Dr. So, if your inner critic tells you to stay in seclusion or to keep your mouth shut at a party, uncomfortable as it may feel at first, you have to find a way to not indulge in the behavior that will lead you to feel more shame or loneliness. Even if initially you wind up feeling embarrassed or not quite yourself when you act against your voice, you should remember to practice self-compassion. Challenging your voices will stir up anxiety and changing a behavior pattern can make the voice seem louder at first. Most people feel like an outcast on some level, but challenging this precise feeling is what will lead you to get what you want in life. It will allow you to shed layers that keep you from feeling yourself. This is a free hotline available 24 hours a day to anyone in emotional distress or suicidal crisis. I am the only one who pays any attention to me. I have a new friend now, thin as air, I named her Radzi, who sits across the table from me and listens to me. I have the same issue. I have been told no one likes me over and over again all my life. Now my inner voice is just affirming what I already know. I m ugly, useless and stupid. No one wants to me around a loser. Other then to feel sorry for me. But the one thing I know is that no one is bad. Maybe others say that due to ONE particular aspect of yours which you find normal or unique, but is actually quite irritating or immoral. Think about it! I thought this was my unique experience. Reading this today helped me get thru a very tough day; I hope you left here feeling better as well. Why nobody likes me? Why am I not clever as other people? Why am I not pretty? I mean like a very close friends. Why I am too timid or scared to talk with other people. And why I think that everyone hate me because of my flaws. But I feel like my inner voice agrees with most people. My ex was one of the most understanding people, but she left me over my problems. Most people have more going for them. Hi John, I have no clue who are you or where do you come from or what qualities you have… But I am sure of one thing…That you want to change… First of all,the way you list of your shortcomings try and list out your qualities like you have a good sense of humor or whatever.. Stop undervaluing yourself.. Agreed that your ex left you because of some problems but she came close to you because of your qualities…Understand this. Your age,job status are all circumstances in your life. Having a great job will not make you a happy person. If you are lonely without money,trust me you will be lonely with money…But loneliness is just a state of mind.. You can be lonely in a room full of people and you can be happy alone as well. I hope it helps. I loved reading this! Nothing is for sure. It is what it is right now. I will have compassion for myself. Guys please help me.. Now a days I do lot of overthinking.. And all will be negative only. I have some insecure feelings also.. Pls advise how to come out of this. Dear Ashima, We encourage you to get support, whether through a group, a counselor or therapist. You might find some of the resources on this mental health website helpful with the feelings that you described: Hi Ashima, I think its right to say that i understand how u feel…if u r from india, going to a therapist also wouldnt be that easy due to social cliches. Its difficult for me to advice something without knowing what is happening in your life right now. BUt i have been there where u r now…U feel like if only ur mind could stop thinking for a while…u pray incessantly for ur thoughts to stop but all in vain…I will just recommend u that start something which u like or u r passionate about. Start learning guitar or anything else. Thanks for your article on the critical inner voice. Something or someone that causes harm chaos. Thank you and God Bless. Try new palces, new people, new activities, new friendes.. Get distracted from who around you, get bussy, be happy you deserve it! Where and how do you find no friends? Most people already have their friends. That was very well said. Clear, concise and so very accurate. What I dont understand is how family and friends can be so cold…with their actions, words and lack of acceptance, validation, kindness or support, yet claim they love you. But the second you stick up for yourself, they become angry, hateful and are quick to turn the tables on you to find reasons or excuses to blame you for they way THEY act. Which further isolates you and increases your feelings of self doubt, vulnerability, lonliness and being accepted. Its very difficult to not feel defeated and keep putting yourself out there to meet more new people when its people who ultimately cause you so much pain. Im a very generous, kind, helpful, fun, sincere, loyal person. But I will stick up for or defend myself. I do tend to get taken advantage of because I like helping people out. But I also say no, too, so I do set boundaries. Yet, this poor treatment from others seems to be a repeating theme for me. So, what I would most like to know is, what am I doing to invite or perpetuate this dynamic with people? I truly do not understand. I relate so much to this.. I too defend myself and I set boundaries.. But my good qualities out weigh any bad ones.. I feel this way on how people treat me.. But some how fail to show their love and support.. And these days are the times when I break down.. And start the whole process again from the beginning! One thing I do know.. We enter this world alone.. We have one life! Elizabeth, that is called verbal abuse. Either that, or you have very poor social understanding and act in a way that makes people afraid of you etc. If that is the case, you can learn. Nobody is born with social skills, we all learn them from somewhere. Socially fluent people actually study it under a master or go to school to master their emotional intelligence skills! Elizabeth, I know exactly how you feel! It hurts deeply! No parent should ever be so mean and spiteful, but in reality it happens! These are known as Toxic people! They are set on destruction! Please believe me when I tell you from experience, you are better than they are! You have to believe in yourself and your kids! Hold your head up high! This is my whole life. I understand all too well and just writing this is exhausting, if anyone gets that. Does anyone get it…? I guess. Leave your mom out for a while and see how she likes it. Tell her everybody hates her see how she feels. No one deserves this. No one wants to hear me when I did try to tell. It was too late because I was already reported. No one wanted to know why I did some things. Everybody wants to report everybody about any lil thing. No matter how others perceive you, your most important job is to figure out how you truly perceive yourself. It seems my most avid bedtime routine here lately has been, Step 1- put on PJs. Step 2- cry. I just have to keep telling myself that nobody is worth my pain, and then I can finally get some rest. God bless Jamil. Stay strong Cora! I will try to do the same as well from now on. We have to stay strong all of us! Ok Seriously, what about when I think everything is great. Again… This as happened all my life! That has been my experience too, my whole life. In my twenties and thirties, I discovered my sibling and parents had been on vacations without me. I love having fun. I also enjoy staying in and watching movies and taking. I would like adult company sometimes. It hurts my feelings when I find out about my family going on vacations or friends getting together but I was never included. Now I just keep to myself all the time even though I really want to be included. When I work I have no problem cutting up with people and building relationships. But it ends there. No one talks to me outside of work or away from social media. I feel like an outcast and that no one really cares at all. These same people then have the nerve to criticize me for being depressed. And that makes me feel stupid. I feel for you , the only thing my family value about me , is that they got rid of me. I just keep studying. Think of going to town where no one knows me at the end when I graduate..

There is only one of you dont run from your self face up to your demons. You deserve to be here.

10 Signs of Walking Depression

Love and much light Deborah xxx. Yes Carol. I know that now…that trying to run to some phantom of ultimate happiness made no diff. In fact my life is nearly in utter ruins. My burning brain is filled with regrets, sadness of a passing life to which no second chances will ever be offered. I wish…. I I have no one in my life wish…. This is very good insight. I found it very helpful. Also… your borders. Those are DNA bands from a electrophoresis gel?

Art and Science are not worlds apart. Instead of art on one end of the spectrum and science on the other… Think of the spectrum as a circle. Where art ends, science begins, and where science ends, art begins. I agree that art and science are much more integrated than most people think, and I love both. I have no one in my life believe that low grade depression existed in different ways over much of life until which turned to severe depression.

I since have stabilized and I have been on meds and I believe that low grade depression is apparent. I just turned 19, and ive been feeling this way all the way throughout high school. I just noticed last year that I was depressed, but not depression itself but at this point in time all these points are how im feeling …. Everything here struck a chord with how I feel. I even drove the woman home. Why take her last bit of happiness.

I do my day to day, but more and more, the few people who I have no one in my life my regularly have been noticing that I look tired and distant, and I hate that they are finally noticing because I am losing my grip on the facade that is my life. Nothing I used to enjoy makes me happy and I have become more and more hostile toward the people I once I have no one in my life for. Am I suicidal? Will I ever follow through?

I view it as cowardice. I feel under appreciated and like my kindness and helpfulness have been taken advantage of my entire life, and now that I am refusing to help others without getting anything in return, mentally, physically, or monetarily, I am being treated like the bad guy. I supposed I should digress. Your story really hit home with me, as we are in very similar mind states. My situation is the same as Peter Gibbons in Office Space. I work an office job kind of like that…and every monotonous day gets worse.

Every day you see me is pretty much the worst day of my life. Hopefully we will both eventually find Learn more here within ourselves. Although I feel the same way as you, I can say you are not a worthless robot. I have to believe that. Like Alison, I am a writer. But have a published?

Porno Tweet Watch Video Full Xxxvoedo. My kids know there is something not right. From being a lively ,bubbly, health freak to being overweight and a total misery. The only way out is to sleep and sometimes wish I would never wake up. Doing nothing and wondering what the hell is happening to me. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you are trying therapy and considering medication. I also was highly successful academically and at work, teaching aerobics classes, with a spotless apartment. Then something happened. I hope you are feeling better soon. I have been through good times, great times as well as trauma in my life. One step back, one step back until we can lose momentum. Observe; remember the human physics law: Some is real, some is fiction. It is a bit of truth. It can be deceiving as well. Like the warning on a mirror: Objects may appear larger than life. My depression is real. Councilors, support groups can help facilitate the process. For me, daily prayer to GOD, which is ultimately with me, to never give up, to keep going, to create a new plan, to find a lifestyle that fits my vision. Things is motion: I have found that simple movement can really assist in the dismissal of depression. For example, i feel like doing nothing. But, I find ONE small thing to get myself going. I must brush my teeth, get showered, dressed, and go to get a coffee. Then, I allow myself to revisit the depression. Accomplishing activities, make a list and do the small stuff first. The issues in my psyche that need to be looked addressed may be talked through with a counselor. The mind is as receptive and delicate. It will do as you tell it. Observing or knowing that YOU are a spirit in a human body mind can be really powerful. Knowing that what you think may be harmful to what you are is incredibly resourceful. It is One Step that woke me up from a false sad, unmotivated self to an enlightened, ready, willing self. It takes practice. I am a work in progress; seeing my life as an hour glass.. I have always been the strongest one within everyone I know, nothing phased me and I could conqour the world. After the separation of my husband, a trip overseas which turned into a nightmare, my mother getting cancer, countless good friends leaving the city I live in, countless people screwing me over, plus many countless things to beat me down its finally got me to breaking point. Strength is something we can retrain within ourselves, because we had the building blocks for it to begin with. I am totally exhausted because I have to do everything around the house, be emotionally and mentally available all the time. I am just struggling to keep our lives together. I have to make a choice: My husband knows that he needs help but he is not very eager to get help. Holidays are something I dread because even if we do go out with the children he is never mentally and emotionally available and that leaves me to fill both my role and his role in the lives of our children. This is exactly where I am at in my life, marriage and relationships. My husband has sucked everything out of me. I no longer have any mental, emotional or physical energy to give. He goes out to his job and gets his batteries re-energized. Me, my well is dried up. My whole life feels like a lie. I feel like my family is deserting me wanting to leave me. Trying to keep me down but also trying to some how keep me going. I tried to kill myself. And all this is happening to a fourteen year old kid. My reasons are different but the feeling is the same. I am sticking to an exercise plan and right now decided to not make any firm moves till I loose 20 lbs. This is helping but little. I feel like that. It destroyed my life I lost my wife and All my family. Nothing to go on. Everyday I fight just to keep going. I am going to try to see a doctor. Every single word you said I resonate with. I too, was one who put everyone and everything first. I had no time to take care of me, and, of course, nobody else is going to. We had a busy little family, two budding careers and life should have been great, but both of us adults became ill. No wonder. My advice is this. Material things can actually get in the way of happiness, it happens all of the time, unfortunately. Those closest to us actually follow our lead. If we honor and respect ourselves first, so do they. Children are learning who to honor and respect first everyday. Today, I realize the mistake, and maybe too late. Exhausting, but I now live for me first, then the kids and grands. That made so much sense, my life seems like one endless service to others- work, kids, house, friends, family. I get cross and resentful and then instantly guilty. I have no social life, but constantly find excuses not to do something about it. It feels like a spiral. Again I am sorry if I am bugging anyone. But, I need to say this. I have a house to run and young children to look after. It is a chemical imbalance. You can be having the best fricken time, be in the middle of a situation you totally love and feel comfortable and that you are achieving something and then BAM! Like getting shot in the head. All of the sudden the cloud descends on you, the world is dark and you are very much alone. The only respite that I have learned is to embrace the darkness. Revel in the solitude of depression. Truly enjoy your cocoon and your distance that you have. I say, bitch. You can be depressed until Thursday. Enjoy the cocoon, the ugly, the not having to respond or go anywhere; even if you do you are not there. Then you snap out of it. We own it. We can give it the time that it needs, give it the space to absorb our life, but, ultimately we take ourselves back and we live our life with kindness, grace, understanding and love. Wow, everything and I mean everything about your comment is me!! It drives me down deeper but somehow I pull myself out…. I defiantly am like this. For my family, I put myself on the line for them noatter what and am always trying to be good to them, even though they just want me to be happy. Sometimes I get better, but these feeling just keep coming back. All my past does is just haunts me. I go through each day, just wanting to do nothing because I feel nothing matters. If I change, so what? Hell, this comment will probably be overlooked and never seen but damnit I want to get this off my chest. I feel like worthless scum because I have no motivation to do anything because in the end nothing matters. Hell the only thing I can truly recall giving me something to be happy about was family and friends, and even that was more of passing the time. I hate myself, and I hate my life. Hey No Body. I see you. What you wrote — I can totally relate. I cry all the time and nothing has meaing. I used to think that if only I could see the sun set, then that day would be worth living. Now… Well… Things seem so empty. Sometimes I feel better. When I find that I am in the moment. Those are the ok times. Being in water can help. Go swimming in the ocean or in a lake, if you live near one. Look at the horizon and feel the water around your body. Try to think back on a moment you felt ok. Play it over in your mind. A moment like that will happen again. For me too. They just seem so far between. Thinking of you. Chin up. No Body, I see you as well. I say ocean because I have a feeling that there are a lot of us rowing around aimlessly, not knowing where to go, who to talk with about what we are feeling, looking for that one thing that is going to show us the way back to shore. I never respond to comments. Because your words affected me. They made me feel, made me realize I am not all alone in this struggle. Someone else gets it! It may sound strange but, that thought, of not being alone, me feel so happy. Not because I want others to feel depressed and alone, but because it means I am not the only one. A beacon on the shore that is calling out to be found. I am right there with you my friend! I have faith that we can all get to that shore. You are stronger than you think. I am not good with words like most of the other people that have left comments. I am hoping that by admitting that I am in a very similar boat with a major leak and no life jackets on board…I am not alone. Thank you all for sharing your comments. I have felt those exact same feelings: Then I feel guilty because I know others have problems that are real and they deal with them and still do more than I do. I have been depressed off and on my whole life. There was always someone in my life who, I told myself, would be way too devastated if I ever harmed myself. When I was younger, it was my father; later it was my kids. My father has passed away and my kids are grown with lives of their own. We are not close. So I continue to struggle. Thanks for your comment and being brave enough to write out what you feel. So thank you and know that, as others have said, there are a lot of us out there who feel like you do, and we care even in our own sadness. Me too. Same here!! I feel like a different person in front of others and different when i am alone. In front others I am jolly, happy-go- lucky, smart and confident girl. But i am not like that. I act happy but im not happy. But there is no reason for me to be sad. No fucking reason. I have the best family, best friends, best grades. I am the class topper. Everyone says i am smart and beautiful. Almost all the boys in my class and bus like me. But i hate myself. I feel like no one deserves to be related with me. And i am ONLY 12!!!! I recognize this very well, and am just hovering above it. Same with me, took a year off to write and then returned to a daily job. And publishing, or writing for a living is not my idea of writing. I am in the same boat as you. I hope one day the world will be an easier place to live in filled with love and simplicity, and less of materialistic bullshit. Thank you so much for this. Get good grades. Go to a good college. Get a good job. Get paid good money. Buy a good house. Good this, good that. This type of life just seems so fucking boring. Yeah, right. Others go aboard while I stay at home it breaks my heart. Not just about the money but something you are passionate about. Dont go to a college if you have to pay for it. Get a job an work your way up from the bottome, do online study. The job will give you the community and chose a job you think you would like to go into that industry,. College today is a total scam because you can buy any text book you want, learn anything you want online for free. Trust me you dont want to be a lawyer or doctor, and engineers today dont need degrees, you just get one with a degree to sign off your work after you have made a name for your work. I have to respectfully disagree about college as a scam. College may not be for everyone, but a degree can certainly help you in most careers today. Why be 10kk underpaid without a degree when doing the same work as someone with a degree? In my current line of work, I can only move up by having higher education regardless of the number of years I put in. Unless you naturally have a talent or skill set that you can earn money with, consider going to college or at least the military — I spent 6 years in the Air Force during a point where I felt my life was directionless. My daughter is a sophomore in high school. She felt the same way as you, Teto. For years. She, in fact, opened my eyes to the absurdity of these institutions. Sitting in a classroom all day, at desks? At a young, healthy, vital age? We are an artsy family and neither my husband nor myself work a 9 to 5 job. So we signed off for our teen daughter to be homeschooled. She may get her GED this summer. He thinks his sister is nuts. I see both sides. My son is social, and competitive, and into computers and tech. My daughter would go comatose having to play those worldly games. The key is, find your actual passions, find your confidence, and minimize distractions, escapist tendencies, and other forms of BS. Talk honestly with whatever adults you can trust, about your feelings about all of this. So many things we are supposed to fall in line with ARE pointless, and are not about us at all, but about the power structures that rely on you to be a good littler worker. There are many of us that have done well being creative and not following that 9 to 5 path. Connect with nature. A lot of people feel that way. It transcends us. It is a pure expression of life. Hi I know this comment was posted a long time ago, but you mentioned that you were an artsy family. What kind of artsy jobs do you work in? I can so much relate to you. I feel the same way! I miss feeling anything but anger. What is wrong with me. I will. AFTER all. I feel. Bella, I totally understand what you are going through. I went through the same thing at My husband at the time cheated on me. I also had his Neice and nephew living with us. I was so depressed and resentful that he left me. I still am I have never been the same. I rarely experience joy in my life. But my worst mistake was taking it out on my oldest boy. And I was so strict and so hard on him. PLEASE if you only do one thing to change, love your son him, include him, talk to him, do not take it out on him. It will ruin his life. Your depression with transfer to him. He will resent you. I was a good mother but I did take a lot out on my son, and I am paying for it big time. He is 31 and I He is depressed, lost, he takes it out on me now. When I would do anything to have a relationship with him. Figure out how to deal with him. He is hurting as much as you are. I am still depressed. When someone causes that much harm to you. It must change your brain if your predisposed to it. But they both recently had to move far away from me. One for work the other for the armed forces. I am remarried but, he has cheated on me but I am totally dependent on him. He has given all to my kids. I am perfectly content lying on the couch not going out for days. Which is very sad. I used to be up early and a very happy person. All I meant to say was try to change your behavior towards your son before that becomes another battle you have to fight and feel guilty about. Not Helpful Helpful It is hurtful when no one answers you, but if you are with people who do not answer, then they are not worth worrying about, move on to someone who will. Not Helpful 84 Helpful Be yourself, stop being a people pleaser and realize when you're trying too hard to conform to other people's expectations. If you enjoy wearing or doing certain activities that people judge you by, simply take no notice of them. You deserve to have other people know who you really are. Not Helpful 62 Helpful Approach them and ask them why they're treating you that way. Or just keep your distance from them and find better friends who respect you. Not Helpful 66 Helpful I know my friend cares about me and has shown it, but she's changed. However, I just can't let her go! What should I do now? Explain to her how you're feeling about her changed actions and see how she reacts to your statement, which will make your decision easier. Not Helpful 12 Helpful I feel really worthless and sad all the time. How can I raise my spirits? Stop thinking about the negativities of your life and start making goals. Start loving yourself and don't waste your time on people who don't care about you. Not Helpful 88 Helpful What should I do when my friends don't listen to me and just judge me? Not Helpful 76 Helpful What do I do if people think I'm mentally ill and act weird when I tell them I don't have any friends? Practice ignoring those people because they don't support you and are being judgmental. Not Helpful 70 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Already answered Not a question Bad question Other. Tips Your value does not depend on the approval or acceptance of other people. Be content with your own approval. Live your life. Don't let the people who put you in this situation and drag you down. Show them who the better person is by refusing to give up or appear defeated. Distract yourself. Get a job or join a sport in which you are interested. If the people who don't care about you are your parents, talk to a teacher or counselor. They can help you get to the right people or agency. Volunteer in your community! Getting involved, sharing time, talent, and interest where people genuinely appreciate your effort and kindness show love and support for others. Meanwhile, you are doing something positive for yourself! A real two for one! Warnings Sometimes you may not be able to think of a time when you were happy, or proud, or even peaceful. Don't worry, this is only because you are in that hole. There's a moment; you'll find it once you feel better. If this feeling persists and leads to severe thoughts of suicide, immediately call the suicide hotline at 1 Commiseration can be a great comfort, but after a point the conversation should turn to improving your life. People who dwell on negative events tend to stay depressed longer, even if they talk about it with friends. Edit Related wikiHows. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 1,, times. Submit a Story. Join Us Log In. Find a Facebook group for people who share a common interest. Want a nearby counselor? Connect with other mental health advocates. The Mighty iPhone App is here! Get it now. Sarah Schuster is the editorial director of The Mighty's contributor network. Follow her on Twitter saraheliztweets. Sarah Schuster. Want the best Mighty stories emailed to you? No, thank you. There was a problem with the address entered. Please try again. Please believe me when I tell you from experience, you are better than they are! You have to believe in yourself and your kids! Hold your head up high! This is my whole life. I understand all too well and just writing this is exhausting, if anyone gets that. Does anyone get it…? I guess. Leave your mom out for a while and see how she likes it. Tell her everybody hates her see how she feels. No one deserves this. No one wants to hear me when I did try to tell. It was too late because I was already reported. No one wanted to know why I did some things. Everybody wants to report everybody about any lil thing. No matter how others perceive you, your most important job is to figure out how you truly perceive yourself. It seems my most avid bedtime routine here lately has been, Step 1- put on PJs. Step 2- cry. I just have to keep telling myself that nobody is worth my pain, and then I can finally get some rest. God bless Jamil. Stay strong Cora! I will try to do the same as well from now on. We have to stay strong all of us! Ok Seriously, what about when I think everything is great. Again… This as happened all my life! That has been my experience too, my whole life. In my twenties and thirties, I discovered my sibling and parents had been on vacations without me. I love having fun. I also enjoy staying in and watching movies and taking. I would like adult company sometimes. It hurts my feelings when I find out about my family going on vacations or friends getting together but I was never included. Now I just keep to myself all the time even though I really want to be included. When I work I have no problem cutting up with people and building relationships. But it ends there. No one talks to me outside of work or away from social media. I feel like an outcast and that no one really cares at all. These same people then have the nerve to criticize me for being depressed. And that makes me feel stupid. I feel for you , the only thing my family value about me , is that they got rid of me. I just keep studying. Think of going to town where no one knows me at the end when I graduate. Sorry you so lonely , xx Kim. Are we the black sheep , I feel same as you ladies. I feel this same way. However thinking about it I am realizing that is where my inner critic is coming from. All the family outings I was excluded from and the way my family makes me feel like an outcast with their words and behaviors. I am now determined to prove my inner critic wrong! I also have been considering that when I go into a situation hoping for the best and being friendly and really trying only to be left out and isolated once again…it is highly possible that I am projecting my feeling of dislike toward the new people. Thinking back on the situations it only ever seems to happen when I myself dont enjoy the particular group I am trying to be a part of. What are the rules? This is me to a T. If I ever go to a party, its cause I invited myself. Noone tries to talk to me, seems its always me that has to make the attempt to talk to people. I know I am shy but I push myself out there. I see people avoid me. Even my own brother, hugs me when he does see me but we bought a house almost a year ago and he hasnt even seen it yet, even though hes been right up the road. My Mom is a mile away and has only been here maybe 4 times. So much of this article explained the inner thoughts. Sexually molested as a young girl, Emotionally and physically abused also. Everybody was busy, so nobody came. I ended up feeling worse about myself in the end. Kinda proved that inner voice right that no one liked me. My shrink says I need to go out and find nice people. I keep asking her how. I seem to have bad luck with it and just keep getting hurt. I feel the exact same way. I smile at everyone and I go into situations feeling positive and confident- not overly- yet no one includes me in anything. I need to start being a jerk in order to dazzle people and leave some sort of lasting impression. What you wrote is almost exactly how I feel too! I am certainly not perfect, but I perceive myself as a genuine, courteous, kind, generous person with a healthy sense of humor. I love to laugh with others not at others. I also perceive that most of the time when I attempt to interact with a group of people that I am always the one no one cares to listen too. I am careful not to dominate but if I speak even three words, someone will always interrupt me and it is as if I am just a ghost nobody notices. But I have tried being obnoxious to see if that would get me heard at least…but the reaction from the group when I do that is someone calls me out to put me in my place and I end up humiliated. Then feel really stupid for acting obnoxious against my nature. When I simply raise my voice to be heard I feel that people are looking at me like I am some kind of freak. What about if you are really lonely and it is not only a state of mind? There are a lot of people around me and I can get them like me if I want to. Oh I do relate to you , we try but would like to be heard too. I hear you! I am the same way. I always go out of my way to be helpful, considerate to others. I feel that is is very easy for people to abuse this strength of ours. Cause that is how I see it, a curse, and a strength at the same time. I am currently in a rough situation after coming out of a 12yr relationship that left me completely drained and empty. Any contact that I have with them is because I initiate it. It makes me feel even more unloved. It makes me incredibly said that the only emotional outlet available to me, is one that I need to pay for: You are understood, at least, by me. Lounik, try to get away from having to lie. Remember that humans used to live in groups of or less—Imagine how few people of our age group there used to be! Now we at least have internet so you can discuss your interest in a group or something. Unfortunately it seems that the more you give to a loved one the more they take, the less you ask for the less they give to you. I know exactly how this feels. My band is Annie and My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. I was never popular but had some friends. I did sports and piano too. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. I moved to US when I was I finished my BS in biology and got into pharmacy school and got my doctorate degree there. People sitting next to my ask about medications from someone else and ignoring me as a drug expert. Recently our friend finish her nursing degree which is only 2 year program and all of the sudden everybody listens to her advise and completely ignoring me. Sometimes it brings a teat to my eyes. I know and feel very competent and my decisions always been excellent in my career but somehow people just ignore me. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. People sometimes think me and my 13 year old daughter ate sisters. I try to read and educate myself, increase my self esteem, be positive but nothing changes in my life. I cry sometimes because I feel very very lonely insight. I try very hard to please everybody all the time. I take my parents and my daughter to Europe every year for vacation, I put my daughter to private school since she was pre-schooler , I try to surprise my family with nice gifts but inside I feel very empty. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. My parents do their best for me, help me with my daughter and give me love but I still feel very empty. I think not being able to meet any guy who would show an interest in my really bothers me a lot. When I go to parties or professional mixers I stay completely invisible. I already tried auto suggestion that I am pretty and smart and well deserved but the reality shows me something very different. Annie, My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I was struck by the eighteenth sentence you wrote above — if that is true, you might be interested in this article about the scientifically-supported study of positive emotions and thought, and your power over creating them. Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities. When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible. I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months. When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that. I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them?.

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Sexy pante Watch Video Bouncer Sex. I searched Facebook until I found a couple groups that seemed to match what I was going through. Pets are also great ice-breakers, and bringing your furry pal along when you leave the house might make socializing a little easier. As Mighty member Melissa A. They can give the unconditional love and support that humans are unable to provide. If reading can get us out of our heads for a little while… a book club is the irl in real life equivalent. If talking about books in person if not your thing, you can also find virtual book clubs. For example, BuzzFeed just launched a book club. You can also find a list of book clubs on GoodReads here. If you do need a space safe to talk about your mental health, fear not. Support groups are an amazing way to both seek mental health support and connect with people. You can explore categories that range from outdoor adventures to film. Obviously, meeting up with strangers can be hard. That way, perhaps you can still meet people, but at least your hands will be busy. Oftentimes we have to take care of ourselves before helping others. I go through each day, just wanting to do nothing because I feel nothing matters. If I change, so what? Hell, this comment will probably be overlooked and never seen but damnit I want to get this off my chest. I feel like worthless scum because I have no motivation to do anything because in the end nothing matters. Hell the only thing I can truly recall giving me something to be happy about was family and friends, and even that was more of passing the time. I hate myself, and I hate my life. Hey No Body. I see you. What you wrote — I can totally relate. I cry all the time and nothing has meaing. I used to think that if only I could see the sun set, then that day would be worth living. Now… Well… Things seem so empty. Sometimes I feel better. When I find that I am in the moment. Those are the ok times. Being in water can help. Go swimming in the ocean or in a lake, if you live near one. Look at the horizon and feel the water around your body. Try to think back on a moment you felt ok. Play it over in your mind. A moment like that will happen again. For me too. They just seem so far between. Thinking of you. Chin up. No Body, I see you as well. I say ocean because I have a feeling that there are a lot of us rowing around aimlessly, not knowing where to go, who to talk with about what we are feeling, looking for that one thing that is going to show us the way back to shore. I never respond to comments. Because your words affected me. They made me feel, made me realize I am not all alone in this struggle. Someone else gets it! It may sound strange but, that thought, of not being alone, me feel so happy. Not because I want others to feel depressed and alone, but because it means I am not the only one. A beacon on the shore that is calling out to be found. I am right there with you my friend! I have faith that we can all get to that shore. You are stronger than you think. I am not good with words like most of the other people that have left comments. I am hoping that by admitting that I am in a very similar boat with a major leak and no life jackets on board…I am not alone. Thank you all for sharing your comments. I have felt those exact same feelings: Then I feel guilty because I know others have problems that are real and they deal with them and still do more than I do. I have been depressed off and on my whole life. There was always someone in my life who, I told myself, would be way too devastated if I ever harmed myself. When I was younger, it was my father; later it was my kids. My father has passed away and my kids are grown with lives of their own. We are not close. So I continue to struggle. Thanks for your comment and being brave enough to write out what you feel. So thank you and know that, as others have said, there are a lot of us out there who feel like you do, and we care even in our own sadness. Me too. Same here!! I feel like a different person in front of others and different when i am alone. In front others I am jolly, happy-go- lucky, smart and confident girl. But i am not like that. I act happy but im not happy. But there is no reason for me to be sad. No fucking reason. I have the best family, best friends, best grades. I am the class topper. Everyone says i am smart and beautiful. Almost all the boys in my class and bus like me. But i hate myself. I feel like no one deserves to be related with me. And i am ONLY 12!!!! I recognize this very well, and am just hovering above it. Same with me, took a year off to write and then returned to a daily job. And publishing, or writing for a living is not my idea of writing. I am in the same boat as you. I hope one day the world will be an easier place to live in filled with love and simplicity, and less of materialistic bullshit. Thank you so much for this. Get good grades. Go to a good college. Get a good job. Get paid good money. Buy a good house. Good this, good that. This type of life just seems so fucking boring. Yeah, right. Others go aboard while I stay at home it breaks my heart. Not just about the money but something you are passionate about. Dont go to a college if you have to pay for it. Get a job an work your way up from the bottome, do online study. The job will give you the community and chose a job you think you would like to go into that industry,. College today is a total scam because you can buy any text book you want, learn anything you want online for free. Trust me you dont want to be a lawyer or doctor, and engineers today dont need degrees, you just get one with a degree to sign off your work after you have made a name for your work. I have to respectfully disagree about college as a scam. College may not be for everyone, but a degree can certainly help you in most careers today. Why be 10kk underpaid without a degree when doing the same work as someone with a degree? In my current line of work, I can only move up by having higher education regardless of the number of years I put in. Unless you naturally have a talent or skill set that you can earn money with, consider going to college or at least the military — I spent 6 years in the Air Force during a point where I felt my life was directionless. My daughter is a sophomore in high school. She felt the same way as you, Teto. For years. She, in fact, opened my eyes to the absurdity of these institutions. Sitting in a classroom all day, at desks? At a young, healthy, vital age? We are an artsy family and neither my husband nor myself work a 9 to 5 job. So we signed off for our teen daughter to be homeschooled. She may get her GED this summer. He thinks his sister is nuts. I see both sides. My son is social, and competitive, and into computers and tech. My daughter would go comatose having to play those worldly games. The key is, find your actual passions, find your confidence, and minimize distractions, escapist tendencies, and other forms of BS. Talk honestly with whatever adults you can trust, about your feelings about all of this. So many things we are supposed to fall in line with ARE pointless, and are not about us at all, but about the power structures that rely on you to be a good littler worker. There are many of us that have done well being creative and not following that 9 to 5 path. Connect with nature. A lot of people feel that way. It transcends us. It is a pure expression of life. Hi I know this comment was posted a long time ago, but you mentioned that you were an artsy family. What kind of artsy jobs do you work in? I can so much relate to you. I feel the same way! I miss feeling anything but anger. What is wrong with me. I will. AFTER all. I feel. Bella, I totally understand what you are going through. I went through the same thing at My husband at the time cheated on me. I also had his Neice and nephew living with us. I was so depressed and resentful that he left me. I still am I have never been the same. I rarely experience joy in my life. But my worst mistake was taking it out on my oldest boy. And I was so strict and so hard on him. PLEASE if you only do one thing to change, love your son him, include him, talk to him, do not take it out on him. It will ruin his life. Your depression with transfer to him. He will resent you. I was a good mother but I did take a lot out on my son, and I am paying for it big time. He is 31 and I He is depressed, lost, he takes it out on me now. When I would do anything to have a relationship with him. Figure out how to deal with him. He is hurting as much as you are. I am still depressed. When someone causes that much harm to you. It must change your brain if your predisposed to it. But they both recently had to move far away from me. One for work the other for the armed forces. I am remarried but, he has cheated on me but I am totally dependent on him. He has given all to my kids. I am perfectly content lying on the couch not going out for days. Which is very sad. I used to be up early and a very happy person. All I meant to say was try to change your behavior towards your son before that becomes another battle you have to fight and feel guilty about. Feel just like you do. My son is the spitting image of his dad. I know this has put some distance between us…I just am not good at pretending. I do love him, so much…but I feel he senses the resistance. I feel similar to Bella. I know I need to complete a book I have been trying to write for years, but depression holds me back. I went through a break up because my ex was absolutely awful and she was a serial cheater. I tried so many things to help this woman, but she just lived by lies. Interestingly enough, she blame shifts everything on me. Some how I am horrible because I caught her in the lies. As if I really wanted to be in the position to catch her cheating. Never an apology or anything just says she can never forgive me. I am definitely depressed and have tried dating again, but it is awful. In addition, my heart seems to be completely numb. I do not have the emotional strength to deal with their demands and crazy mind bending, distorted attempts to begin a relationship. I just can not trust any women anymore. I just hope this passes soon. I can relate but I wish no death upon no one. There will be better days ahead I promise. I look at women like that like a blessing I know that sounds weird. I mean I love kids and I have a heart but hey find ways to cope there is a light at the end of that tunnel, as they say. Good luck. Wow, are you a fly on the wall at my house? Great insight! I sympathise with your situation — I come from a big family 5 child family and my mother has suffered with depression for as long as i can remember. I have also had severe depression several times in my life genetic? Please can I ask you a personal question? I had a boy very young and he is the only thing in this world that keeps me going. I keep going for my boy. Am not saying dont have kids or have kids! Mum and dad would fight like crazy but we was well taken care of. I was so close to my dad I was angry that he left us mum could not cope. I blamed her for dad leaving I hated her with a passion. Dad had a bad motorbike crash witch left him brain dead and paralysed My world ended I was not you typical teeny was worse. I caught with child when I was 19 I sat in the clinic to get rid … I could not do it. Now I have a wonderful boy sure sometimes I still feel depresses my gran said to me I should not have a child for unconditional love , I then got caught with another child when my lad was 2. He died at 32 weeks he was very poorly. I pushed every one away held my boy I had left even closer. Hun you have children when your ready xx. People may read this and think its unfair to put this on my boy. I know I would not be here of it was not for him. Stay as strong as you can Hun ask for help when you need it. In regards to what Dominic was saying, I too wonder if I should have children while struggling with depression. Depression and anxiety run in both sides of my family. I would love to become a mother someday, but if depression is indeed genetic and it seems like it is , how can I knowingly inflict such a devastating condition on my own child? My own struggles have utterly wrecked my quality of life as a person, and in a very real way I feel that it would be immoral and irresponsible for me to bring a child into the world because I will either a pass it along to them and set them up for their own miserable torture, b make them witness to my mental illness and possibly scar them for life, or c both. I know some people still debate whether depression is passed down genetically or not, but I feel I have enough evidence to warrant the assumption that it is. I would hate to do this to someone else, especially my own flesh and blood. Thoughts or opinions, please? Any and all sides are welcome. I need advice. Vulnerability to depression has a very large genetic component. You can find many scientific articles on the subject on PubMed. One of the best supported models holds that this genetic risk interacts most strongly with stress, especially childhood stress. When I was 14 in , I experienced major depression and was suicidal off and on for years. I was furious with my parents for not asking precisely your question—it turns out depression runs in my family. People really misunderstand and overrate their own genes anyway. I will hold off until I do. This is so amazing to be aware of. Really wise! Sorry to hear this Chelsea. It is just get worse day by day and sometimes when you are in a good mood you think that you finally got over this diseases but then you would again go back to this rotting hell. I have tried so much over the years but nothing really works permanently. I myself have depression and lost all my friends because of it. I feel life is passing me by and look back in regret. I myself have no one so would be happy to help. I come from a very similar situation as you. Oldest of 4 children with a depressing mom. I too am considering never having kids due to me going in and out of depression. I try to be happy and remember all the good that I have but the sad feeling always seems to come back. I feel distant and lonely most of the time. They never consider to call me. Always getting married and divorced. I was her only child and I was taken along for her ride. I have a hole in my heart from not getting the nurturing, protection and stability I needed to develop proper self-confidence and safety. As another poster wrote, you do NOT want to have a child just so you can get unconditional love. That will blow up in your face when they hit puberty. Which worked when they were little, but eventually they became wise to my act. Being super real with your kids is a transformative, humbling, teaching experience for you and for them. I think if you are drawn to being a parent, be a parent. Get real. Do some inner work. EMDR is a wonderful therapy that can help heal you from your childhood trauma. Nature heals. Meditation is awesome. Having said that, you do NOT have to have it all figured out. You never will. And we will all make mistakes. Be willing to admit them to yourself and to your kids, and your kids will in turn, be honest with you, and trust and respect you. I have been a stay at home mom for the last 23 years. My oldest daughter is happily married and in her 2nd year of teaching. My youngest daughter is a senior in college and thriving. My son is a junior in high school and is a wonderful joy. My life and my joy was raising my children. I am beginning to feel useless now that they are all grown. But the truth is that they all still need me just in different ways. They love me, call me, appreciate me so why do I feel this way? It was a living hell. I was just starting to feel better and then these weepy feelings of missing my days of having young children have crept in. How can I raise my spirits? Stop thinking about the negativities of your life and start making goals. Start loving yourself and don't waste your time on people who don't care about you. Not Helpful 88 Helpful What should I do when my friends don't listen to me and just judge me? Not Helpful 76 Helpful What do I do if people think I'm mentally ill and act weird when I tell them I don't have any friends? Practice ignoring those people because they don't support you and are being judgmental. Not Helpful 70 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Already answered Not a question Bad question Other. Tips Your value does not depend on the approval or acceptance of other people. Be content with your own approval. Live your life. Don't let the people who put you in this situation and drag you down. Show them who the better person is by refusing to give up or appear defeated. Distract yourself. Get a job or join a sport in which you are interested. If the people who don't care about you are your parents, talk to a teacher or counselor. They can help you get to the right people or agency. Volunteer in your community! Getting involved, sharing time, talent, and interest where people genuinely appreciate your effort and kindness show love and support for others. Meanwhile, you are doing something positive for yourself! A real two for one! Warnings Sometimes you may not be able to think of a time when you were happy, or proud, or even peaceful. Don't worry, this is only because you are in that hole. There's a moment; you'll find it once you feel better. If this feeling persists and leads to severe thoughts of suicide, immediately call the suicide hotline at 1 Commiseration can be a great comfort, but after a point the conversation should turn to improving your life. People who dwell on negative events tend to stay depressed longer, even if they talk about it with friends. Edit Related wikiHows. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 1,, times. Did this article help you? Cookies make wikiHow better. By continuing to use our site, you agree to our cookie policy. Co-Authored By:. March 29, JR Jaeden Robinson Dec 19, I am 15 and feel discouraged and feel like my friends and parents don't care about my opinion. I am on the high school basketball team, and find that physical exercise is a great way to get rid of emotions. Now I try to focus on what really matters. MC Mave Connell Apr 13, I just figure Im always attracting the wrong kind of people into my life by being a people pleaser. I've decided its time to have some respect for myself. PJ Prachii Jadhav Mar 15, It is difficult for close ones to understand how one feels and thinks deep in his thoughts. Such articles give hope. VS Veronica S. Cause that is how I see it, a curse, and a strength at the same time. I am currently in a rough situation after coming out of a 12yr relationship that left me completely drained and empty. Any contact that I have with them is because I initiate it. It makes me feel even more unloved. It makes me incredibly said that the only emotional outlet available to me, is one that I need to pay for: You are understood, at least, by me. Lounik, try to get away from having to lie. Remember that humans used to live in groups of or less—Imagine how few people of our age group there used to be! Now we at least have internet so you can discuss your interest in a group or something. Unfortunately it seems that the more you give to a loved one the more they take, the less you ask for the less they give to you. I know exactly how this feels. My band is Annie and My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. I was never popular but had some friends. I did sports and piano too. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. I moved to US when I was I finished my BS in biology and got into pharmacy school and got my doctorate degree there. People sitting next to my ask about medications from someone else and ignoring me as a drug expert. Recently our friend finish her nursing degree which is only 2 year program and all of the sudden everybody listens to her advise and completely ignoring me. Sometimes it brings a teat to my eyes. I know and feel very competent and my decisions always been excellent in my career but somehow people just ignore me. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. People sometimes think me and my 13 year old daughter ate sisters. I try to read and educate myself, increase my self esteem, be positive but nothing changes in my life. I cry sometimes because I feel very very lonely insight. I try very hard to please everybody all the time. I take my parents and my daughter to Europe every year for vacation, I put my daughter to private school since she was pre-schooler , I try to surprise my family with nice gifts but inside I feel very empty. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. My parents do their best for me, help me with my daughter and give me love but I still feel very empty. I think not being able to meet any guy who would show an interest in my really bothers me a lot. When I go to parties or professional mixers I stay completely invisible. I already tried auto suggestion that I am pretty and smart and well deserved but the reality shows me something very different. Annie, My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I was struck by the eighteenth sentence you wrote above — if that is true, you might be interested in this article about the scientifically-supported study of positive emotions and thought, and your power over creating them. Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities. When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible. I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months. When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that. I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them? Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top — and that is exactly where they are! I was one of those victims. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children. A throw-away age that also includes people. In fact, I think they should change. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. They seem to b crazy about me and then all of a sudden.. The wicked thought am going to die lonely and afraid keeps reoccurring!! This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. To me, this makes a lot more organic sense than doing battle with ourselves. Most of us have had enough of that— and these aspects are trying to help us, not hurt us. My mother died 3 years ago and I have no contact with my father. I have very few friends and am becoming so lonely I just wish life would hurry up and end. I work full time and even though my manager and team mates always praise me I feel excluded and different and the more lonely I become the more difficult I find it to talk to people. I spend most weekends alone in the house. I have borderline personality disorder and the voice has completely taken over. It keeps me inside a lot of the time and I have no opportunities to make friends. Hope you get to come and read this. Hope you and the baby is going well. What caught my attention most about your comment is when you talk about losing your personality because I have been there. I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. I am getting much better but still battle with these emotions and feel that God Is showing me that I will never truly find happiness trying to relate to people. I have lived by myself twice and which people and in all my cases this feeling of loneliness never died. Now I am about to live on my own again and I am prepping myself to deal with the thoughts of loneliness that I know that I will feel. Just recently after all these years of my father not being in my life I just found out that he committed suicide a couple of years back and it has also made me deal with myself a lot because many years of negative through will take you to a very bad place. I refuses to let the devil get in that much and it will always start with people. While I do believe that we can find truly loving worth while people and connections in life it can take a life time and depends on the quality of selection. I am still healing and moving foward and still a lot if defeating thoughts of not being liked or feeling alone but I do put more effect of talking myself off of the ledge. I do have a partner but I am not always happy with the attention or quality time that I am getting and still contemplate about letting the relationship go. My of these concepts of live and connecting with people that we learn are illusions that turn into delusions over all it is about balance. I have had the same experiences in life. At work people will talk about going to happy hour right in front of me and never invite me! Right now my boss only included my coworker in meetings, planning, and we do the same exact job. I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome. I have a heck of a time connecting with people. I too noticed that some people who no one likes because of bad behavior are included. I think it is because while they r annoying, they are real, alive, and connecting with others. Knowing there is a reason for my angst has helped. Wow…and I thought I was possesed or that I had a sign on my back that warned others to stay away from me! Well I feel better now knowing that all you good and sensitive people are senceing what I am. For years I have made myself available for errands and household repairs only to discover that my suspicions were correct.. I WAS being snubbed. So I discovered that my inner self respect was being replaced by an inner being that was insecure and lonely. Make no mistake…there are really mean people in this world that can really mess with your head, and these types travel in groups. My so-called girlfriend must be really insecure if she must team up with her control freak siblings in badmouthing me behind my back. It hurt…a lot. For what its worth…Try with all your loving might to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you and respects you…that person is first and foremost YOU. I doubted myself and really believed that I was less valuable than those around me. I cried. I withdrew. My mind went to dark and self destructive places. As a Christian I prayed but I could not feel better about being me. Slowly the haze started to clear as I learned to not feel responsible for the captious comments of others. What I do now is consider the source of my hurt feelings. I am responsible for alot of them but not all, and I am careful of what I take serious when I hear vicious rumors. Thanks for sharing…You are all in my prayers. Jane…you are an awesome person! Hugs and God Bless You! No one wants me around including my wife of 25 yrs. And many of us Good men really Hate being Single too. I m pursuing degree course i dnt like to meet relatives. It make me feel they will ask questions or what they want. I feel so i think because i m nt beautiful nt yet got a degree i older than my freinds. It makes me feel so much better to see that so many other good people have had similar experiences. I do want to throw in that if you are friendly and nice and positive and people still seem to avoid inviting you in, it may be the very fact that you feel you need so much for them to like you. People sense that and they may become afraid, consciously or not, that if they give you reassurance you will cling to them and demand more and more, which is very daunting if they are already having to work hard to maintain their own confidence. Then all will be attracted to you! I am so apparently UGLY that those men not only felt the need to laugh at me whilst looking at me, but point at me too whilst saying nasty, hurtful things. Makeup is my mask. If only I were even slightly pretty, maybe then I could start to get close to someone to stand the chance of them seeing me for me. Faye, I have felt attracted to women who I thought were ugly when I first met them months, days, hours before the attraction started. I feel soo unwanted unloved and useless my husband has an OCD problem he fights with me everyday over household chores, he makes me feel like i can do nothing right. I really try to hard to be a good wife give him all the love and support. When i try show him affection he always pulls away. Because of this i feel soo lonely, unwanted and useless. Before we were married everything was perfect he was loving and caring. I thought i have found someone that would make me feel special, loved. All my life i felt unwanted useless ugly and worthless and after being married all those feelings have crept back. We argue all the time its physically draining. I am kidding myself thinking our marriage can be salvaged?.

When do I get to be happy? What I do at night is put YouTube on phone or tv or some device and make sure it is a long one and listen to something. Before I I have no one in my life it morning is here. Then I just want to continue sleeping but at least I slept.

I look forward to night time now because I like listening and I know I will sleep. Evan just getting in bed and looking up things on phone is good. Right now I need to close down and listen to a couple hrs here health truth youtubers and sleep. This is me, too. I swear I am a walking depressive.

I was putting up a front and have been for years. On and I have no one in my life, these feelings come back. And now, they are back, almost permanently. Most days are a drag.

Anal Porna Watch Video Ebuhleni Hotties. What are the rules? This is me to a T. If I ever go to a party, its cause I invited myself. Noone tries to talk to me, seems its always me that has to make the attempt to talk to people. I know I am shy but I push myself out there. I see people avoid me. Even my own brother, hugs me when he does see me but we bought a house almost a year ago and he hasnt even seen it yet, even though hes been right up the road. My Mom is a mile away and has only been here maybe 4 times. So much of this article explained the inner thoughts. Sexually molested as a young girl, Emotionally and physically abused also. Everybody was busy, so nobody came. I ended up feeling worse about myself in the end. Kinda proved that inner voice right that no one liked me. My shrink says I need to go out and find nice people. I keep asking her how. I seem to have bad luck with it and just keep getting hurt. I feel the exact same way. I smile at everyone and I go into situations feeling positive and confident- not overly- yet no one includes me in anything. I need to start being a jerk in order to dazzle people and leave some sort of lasting impression. What you wrote is almost exactly how I feel too! I am certainly not perfect, but I perceive myself as a genuine, courteous, kind, generous person with a healthy sense of humor. I love to laugh with others not at others. I also perceive that most of the time when I attempt to interact with a group of people that I am always the one no one cares to listen too. I am careful not to dominate but if I speak even three words, someone will always interrupt me and it is as if I am just a ghost nobody notices. But I have tried being obnoxious to see if that would get me heard at least…but the reaction from the group when I do that is someone calls me out to put me in my place and I end up humiliated. Then feel really stupid for acting obnoxious against my nature. When I simply raise my voice to be heard I feel that people are looking at me like I am some kind of freak. What about if you are really lonely and it is not only a state of mind? There are a lot of people around me and I can get them like me if I want to. Oh I do relate to you , we try but would like to be heard too. I hear you! I am the same way. I always go out of my way to be helpful, considerate to others. I feel that is is very easy for people to abuse this strength of ours. Cause that is how I see it, a curse, and a strength at the same time. I am currently in a rough situation after coming out of a 12yr relationship that left me completely drained and empty. Any contact that I have with them is because I initiate it. It makes me feel even more unloved. It makes me incredibly said that the only emotional outlet available to me, is one that I need to pay for: You are understood, at least, by me. Lounik, try to get away from having to lie. Remember that humans used to live in groups of or less—Imagine how few people of our age group there used to be! Now we at least have internet so you can discuss your interest in a group or something. Unfortunately it seems that the more you give to a loved one the more they take, the less you ask for the less they give to you. I know exactly how this feels. My band is Annie and My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. I was never popular but had some friends. I did sports and piano too. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. I moved to US when I was I finished my BS in biology and got into pharmacy school and got my doctorate degree there. People sitting next to my ask about medications from someone else and ignoring me as a drug expert. Recently our friend finish her nursing degree which is only 2 year program and all of the sudden everybody listens to her advise and completely ignoring me. Sometimes it brings a teat to my eyes. I know and feel very competent and my decisions always been excellent in my career but somehow people just ignore me. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. People sometimes think me and my 13 year old daughter ate sisters. I try to read and educate myself, increase my self esteem, be positive but nothing changes in my life. I cry sometimes because I feel very very lonely insight. I try very hard to please everybody all the time. I take my parents and my daughter to Europe every year for vacation, I put my daughter to private school since she was pre-schooler , I try to surprise my family with nice gifts but inside I feel very empty. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. My parents do their best for me, help me with my daughter and give me love but I still feel very empty. I think not being able to meet any guy who would show an interest in my really bothers me a lot. When I go to parties or professional mixers I stay completely invisible. I already tried auto suggestion that I am pretty and smart and well deserved but the reality shows me something very different. Annie, My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I was struck by the eighteenth sentence you wrote above — if that is true, you might be interested in this article about the scientifically-supported study of positive emotions and thought, and your power over creating them. Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities. When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible. I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months. When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that. I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them? Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top — and that is exactly where they are! I was one of those victims. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children. A throw-away age that also includes people. In fact, I think they should change. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. They seem to b crazy about me and then all of a sudden.. The wicked thought am going to die lonely and afraid keeps reoccurring!! This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. To me, this makes a lot more organic sense than doing battle with ourselves. Most of us have had enough of that— and these aspects are trying to help us, not hurt us. My mother died 3 years ago and I have no contact with my father. I have very few friends and am becoming so lonely I just wish life would hurry up and end. I work full time and even though my manager and team mates always praise me I feel excluded and different and the more lonely I become the more difficult I find it to talk to people. I spend most weekends alone in the house. I have borderline personality disorder and the voice has completely taken over. It keeps me inside a lot of the time and I have no opportunities to make friends. Hope you get to come and read this. Hope you and the baby is going well. What caught my attention most about your comment is when you talk about losing your personality because I have been there. I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. I am getting much better but still battle with these emotions and feel that God Is showing me that I will never truly find happiness trying to relate to people. I have lived by myself twice and which people and in all my cases this feeling of loneliness never died. Now I am about to live on my own again and I am prepping myself to deal with the thoughts of loneliness that I know that I will feel. Just recently after all these years of my father not being in my life I just found out that he committed suicide a couple of years back and it has also made me deal with myself a lot because many years of negative through will take you to a very bad place. I refuses to let the devil get in that much and it will always start with people. While I do believe that we can find truly loving worth while people and connections in life it can take a life time and depends on the quality of selection. I am still healing and moving foward and still a lot if defeating thoughts of not being liked or feeling alone but I do put more effect of talking myself off of the ledge. I do have a partner but I am not always happy with the attention or quality time that I am getting and still contemplate about letting the relationship go. My of these concepts of live and connecting with people that we learn are illusions that turn into delusions over all it is about balance. I have had the same experiences in life. At work people will talk about going to happy hour right in front of me and never invite me! Right now my boss only included my coworker in meetings, planning, and we do the same exact job. I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome. I have a heck of a time connecting with people. I too noticed that some people who no one likes because of bad behavior are included. I think it is because while they r annoying, they are real, alive, and connecting with others. Knowing there is a reason for my angst has helped. Wow…and I thought I was possesed or that I had a sign on my back that warned others to stay away from me! Well I feel better now knowing that all you good and sensitive people are senceing what I am. For years I have made myself available for errands and household repairs only to discover that my suspicions were correct.. I WAS being snubbed. So I discovered that my inner self respect was being replaced by an inner being that was insecure and lonely. Make no mistake…there are really mean people in this world that can really mess with your head, and these types travel in groups. My so-called girlfriend must be really insecure if she must team up with her control freak siblings in badmouthing me behind my back. It hurt…a lot. Take a few minutes each day to unload your thoughts and feelings on paper. Many people find they feel better if they get a chance to "share" private experiences in this way. Over time, the journal can help you identify what affects your mood, and which coping mechanisms help or don't help. Remembering small things like a good cup of coffee or a stranger smiling at you can boost your mood. Make healthy lifestyle changes. Forcing yourself to stick to a regular schedule can help your mood, though this can take a few weeks to kick in. Try to get enough sleep each night, and get up and dressed each morning. Leave the house for at least a short walk. Eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly can lead to a major mood boost. While they may make you feel better in the short term, they often make it harder to fight your depression. Overcome your addiction with professional help if necessary. Seek therapy. Therapy is an effective treatment for depression, recommended by many experts and organizations. You might need to try out several therapists before you find one that you are comfortable with. Give it time to work. Many people visit a therapist weekly for six to twelve months. Consider medication. A psychiatrist can prescribe medication to manage depression, but keep in mind that this is only a temporary solution. Medication alone will not solve your problems, so it is still important to work with a therapist and work on specific concerns. There are many varieties of medication out there, and you may need to try several before you find one that works. Talk to your psychiatrist often about how your new medication is working, and about side effects you've noticed. A combination of medication and therapy may be the most effective treatment, especially for teenagers. Practice meditation or prayer. When you're upset, visit a quiet, private place. Natural surroundings work especially well. Sit down and focus on deep, slow breathing. Many people learn to improve their mood through meditation or prayer. Whenever I tell my friends that I am depressed and having urges to kill myself, they say I'm being stupid and then they slap me. What should I do? Paul Chernyak, LPC. Stop talking to these "Friends" and seek professional help if you have suicidal urges. Also seek out support both online and locally through support groups and mental health organizations. Yes No. Not Helpful 26 Helpful This is abuse. Don't listen to them. You need to talk to someone about this, a counselor, someone at school if you are young. You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of talk. You may have to sever ties completely with the members of your family who say these things to you. Not Helpful 38 Helpful These aren't real friends, and you are worth better than that. Seek out the people who will support you and are positive. Their actions are not reflective of your own worth, but instead show how shallow and mean they are. Keep strong. Not Helpful Helpful It is hurtful when no one answers you, but if you are with people who do not answer, then they are not worth worrying about, move on to someone who will. Not Helpful 84 Helpful Be yourself, stop being a people pleaser and realize when you're trying too hard to conform to other people's expectations. Thanks again!! Me me, I too find it difficult to put me first. I grew up in L. I worked in the media. Size 2 was never accomplished, though I had friends who could! But my depression has come after finishing Law School in FL. And, I find that I have put aside my desires for years because of my sense of duty to others. You, at least, have raised a child. I never achieved that. However, I am not willing to give up! I do have the ability to do more! We must each find our path, our own reasons to live! You have accomplished so much! There has to be more! I can relate to most of these signs, but one of them is inverted for me. How does one put themselves first? What if there is nothing you enjoy, then how do you know how to do that? I so want to change, to get back to the me who woke looking forward to the new day. Most of all I want to stop dreading nightfall. My anxiety level goes up, my heart races and I have a feeling of being totally unwell. I prefer not to resort to pills but may have too. Please share any tips you might have for getting over this total hatred of nighttime. Dread of the nighttime… Can totally relate to this. Very strange but almost feels like an overnight prison sentence. I hate getting into bed each night. I feel the same. My mind is convinced that it is required to torture itself. I definitely have this. Thanks for giving a term to it. Walking depression, I like that. I am an extremely emotional person and have always seen that as a terrible thing to be. What do I need to do to make myself feel better? Awareness is key. Thanks for helping me start to be aware. Sometimes during the day I get this sad depressed overwhelming feeling and start tearing up or crying. I fight or try my best to hide it while at work. Night time by far is the worst for me. The thoughts running through my head make it tough to sleep. Just so much going on up there. Some nights I have bad dreams! I try to do things like go for a walk or maybe buy a pair of pants and food shop!! I seem to sleep better in the day time. Especially since my shades make the room dark!! I just wanna get outta this hole once and for all. Thanks for listening! I pray for all going through this pain. And for those who have passed. First remember you are one of the fittest most capable creatures to ever walk this planet. Life may be short but you have one of the greatest mechanisms of all time, the mind. It can be overbearing but it can also be empowering and free you from the constraints of the physical world. Sleep is nice but not necessary. If you have to go for a walk, exercise til your sick , do whatever keeps you from dwelling on your anxiety. Push yourself to do ANYTHING that you can that gets you out of your bad frame of mind, even if you have to cut your thoughts out and tell your brain to shut up. You are human and you are to strong to be afraid. You have no idea how tired I am inside. All I can say is that I am so fundamentally tired inside. I pretend to be happy and okay. Bur pretending is killing me. I lost my faith in God, and am consumed with guilt, shame and fear of punishment. I was never like this. The hard blows of the last five years have killed a lot of good in me. I just want to lay there on the couch and be left alone. I feel exactly like Joan. Her words were like reading my mind, the same thing I would have written. Less time unemployed, but the rest is straight up my life right now. I have suicidal thoughts everyday but never got the courage to do it. I have lost the happy fun loving person I used to be. If not for my dogs I would have died long back. When I was in my worst funk, at one point, I had to basically let go and give myself permission to feel bad and not want to do anything. I at times very sad. I feel this dark cloud coming over me. I try to avoid this feeling but sometimes it is overwhelming. I too tear up. At times I leave the house and go shopping trying to get these thoughts and feeling out of my head. I dread sleep. As I sleep for a few hours and get up and sit in a chair the rest of the night. This depressive states comes over me because everyone comes to me with their problems. They have no regards to my emotions and feelings. I have no support system because everyone is looking for me to solve their problems. I am beginning to avoid phone calls from my children, because for the most this dark cloud comes from them. Everyone wants me to help them. Their problems put me into a state of worry. They are grown and I want to live my life. When ever I get a call from them it is not to say mom how are you doing today, but something they want me to do for them or their spouse. I am tired, tired, tired. I have my own problems to contend with. Their problems worry me because I tend to take them on. They know that I worry but continuously relate problems to me and not only my kids but my siblings. I feel the exact same way. Really bad insomnia, all of my hobbies feel flat and non-rewarding, crazy night-time anxiety, concentration is cloudy. I saw a shrink, it helped a little. I found out a lot of my friends and people I thought I knew well are suffering through some form of this as well. They all had great things to say about SSRI minus one person who had some weight gain. Sounds like what I went through. Look up adrenal fatigue syndrome. I had success using essential oils. I hope you find relief. I also have no reason for feeling this way. Everything about my life is great on paper. May be the case with you if nothing stands out as being negative in your life. It goes away for a bit but comes back with a vengeance. I love art but that has become a chore as well. I constantly feel like when I am creating art, I could be doing something else and I lose interest. I am constantly sick with the flu or with overwhelming headaches. I can be ok at work sometimes but then at night, I dread having to come back in the morning. Just be careful with SSRIs. I resorted to them a couple years ago. I was on a low dose. I went through a honeymoon phase where I felt great. But that slowly wore off and I ultimately became depressed again, but now had the added side effects of the SSRI which took away my sex drive and made my complacent. Even on a low dose. The Dr. My anxiety was the only true thing the SSRI helped. The depression and lack of motivation were only better for a very short time. I slowly weaned myself of them but I feel worse than ever. I wish I never took them. Everything about my life should be great. I used to browse the internet late at night until I went drowsy with tiredness, and only then could I sleep, otherwise the thoughts and restless self-imprisoning mind plague me. The result was that I went to school each day on six or less hours of sleep. I would snap at my parents because they were the first people I saw every morning. Two of my direct relatives have committed suicide paternal grandfather, maternal great-grandfather and my maternal grandfather was diagnosed psychotic and spent many months of his life in a mental hospital. I feel the same way Steve. I find my anxiety councelor helps allot, an outsider who you can share everything with. I write or text myself a list of what I want to talk about before my appointment. Yoga also helps…alot. Eating healthy is a given, but not always easy.. Not comparing ourselves to others in a negative way Faking a smile.. I was on different medications in the past that made me worse.. Every body is different, so its finding what is right for you.. If it helps, two years ago I was at a point where there was nothing I enjoyed. I put myself first by doing things I knew were good for me such as, focusing on my physical and mental health, spending time outdoors, and being patient and honest with myself. The untethered soul by Michael A Singer may be a helpful book for you. Finding what you enjoy again will come naturally over time. I believe you need to do some soul searching. Technically, your twenties are meant for that trial and error period where you test the waters. Spent the whole weekend sleeping. My kids know there is something not right. From being a lively ,bubbly, health freak to being overweight and a total misery. The only way out is to sleep and sometimes wish I would never wake up. Doing nothing and wondering what the hell is happening to me. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you are trying therapy and considering medication. I also was highly successful academically and at work, teaching aerobics classes, with a spotless apartment. Then something happened. I hope you are feeling better soon. I have been through good times, great times as well as trauma in my life. One step back, one step back until we can lose momentum. Observe; remember the human physics law: Some is real, some is fiction. It is a bit of truth. It can be deceiving as well. Like the warning on a mirror: Objects may appear larger than life. My depression is real. Councilors, support groups can help facilitate the process. For me, daily prayer to GOD, which is ultimately with me, to never give up, to keep going, to create a new plan, to find a lifestyle that fits my vision. Things is motion: I have found that simple movement can really assist in the dismissal of depression. For example, i feel like doing nothing. But, I find ONE small thing to get myself going. I must brush my teeth, get showered, dressed, and go to get a coffee. Then, I allow myself to revisit the depression. Accomplishing activities, make a list and do the small stuff first. The issues in my psyche that need to be looked addressed may be talked through with a counselor. The mind is as receptive and delicate. It will do as you tell it. Observing or knowing that YOU are a spirit in a human body mind can be really powerful. Knowing that what you think may be harmful to what you are is incredibly resourceful. It is One Step that woke me up from a false sad, unmotivated self to an enlightened, ready, willing self. It takes practice. I am a work in progress; seeing my life as an hour glass.. I have always been the strongest one within everyone I know, nothing phased me and I could conqour the world. After the separation of my husband, a trip overseas which turned into a nightmare, my mother getting cancer, countless good friends leaving the city I live in, countless people screwing me over, plus many countless things to beat me down its finally got me to breaking point. Strength is something we can retrain within ourselves, because we had the building blocks for it to begin with. I am totally exhausted because I have to do everything around the house, be emotionally and mentally available all the time. I am just struggling to keep our lives together. I have to make a choice: My husband knows that he needs help but he is not very eager to get help. Holidays are something I dread because even if we do go out with the children he is never mentally and emotionally available and that leaves me to fill both my role and his role in the lives of our children. This is exactly where I am at in my life, marriage and relationships. My husband has sucked everything out of me. I no longer have any mental, emotional or physical energy to give. He goes out to his job and gets his batteries re-energized. Me, my well is dried up. My whole life feels like a lie. I feel like my family is deserting me wanting to leave me. Trying to keep me down but also trying to some how keep me going. I tried to kill myself. And all this is happening to a fourteen year old kid. My reasons are different but the feeling is the same. I am sticking to an exercise plan and right now decided to not make any firm moves till I loose 20 lbs. This is helping but little. I feel like that. It destroyed my life I lost my wife and All my family. Nothing to go on. Everyday I fight just to keep going. I am going to try to see a doctor. Every single word you said I resonate with. I too, was one who put everyone and everything first. I had no time to take care of me, and, of course, nobody else is going to. We had a busy little family, two budding careers and life should have been great, but both of us adults became ill. No wonder. My advice is this. Material things can actually get in the way of happiness, it happens all of the time, unfortunately. Those closest to us actually follow our lead. If we honor and respect ourselves first, so do they. Children are learning who to honor and respect first everyday. Today, I realize the mistake, and maybe too late. Exhausting, but I now live for me first, then the kids and grands. That made so much sense, my life seems like one endless service to others- work, kids, house, friends, family. I get cross and resentful and then instantly guilty. I have no social life, but constantly find excuses not to do something about it. It feels like a spiral. Again I am sorry if I am bugging anyone. But, I need to say this. I have a house to run and young children to look after. It is a chemical imbalance. You can be having the best fricken time, be in the middle of a situation you totally love and feel comfortable and that you are achieving something and then BAM! Like getting shot in the head. All of the sudden the cloud descends on you, the world is dark and you are very much alone. The only respite that I have learned is to embrace the darkness. Revel in the solitude of depression. Truly enjoy your cocoon and your distance that you have. I say, bitch. You can be depressed until Thursday. Enjoy the cocoon, the ugly, the not having to respond or go anywhere; even if you do you are not there. Then you snap out of it. We own it. We can give it the time that it needs, give it the space to absorb our life, but, ultimately we take ourselves back and we live our life with kindness, grace, understanding and love. Wow, everything and I mean everything about your comment is me!! It drives me down deeper but somehow I pull myself out…. I defiantly am like this. For my family, I put myself on the line for them noatter what and am always trying to be good to them, even though they just want me to be happy. Sometimes I get better, but these feeling just keep coming back. All my past does is just haunts me. I go through each day, just wanting to do nothing because I feel nothing matters. If I change, so what? Hell, this comment will probably be overlooked and never seen but damnit I want to get this off my chest. I feel like worthless scum because I have no motivation to do anything because in the end nothing matters. Hell the only thing I can truly recall giving me something to be happy about was family and friends, and even that was more of passing the time. I hate myself, and I hate my life. Hey No Body. I see you. What you wrote — I can totally relate. I cry all the time and nothing has meaing. I used to think that if only I could see the sun set, then that day would be worth living. Now… Well… Things seem so empty. Sometimes I feel better. When I find that I am in the moment. Those are the ok times. If reading can get us out of our heads for a little while… a book club is the irl in real life equivalent. If talking about books in person if not your thing, you can also find virtual book clubs. For example, BuzzFeed just launched a book club. You can also find a list of book clubs on GoodReads here. If you do need a space safe to talk about your mental health, fear not. Support groups are an amazing way to both seek mental health support and connect with people. You can explore categories that range from outdoor adventures to film. Obviously, meeting up with strangers can be hard. That way, perhaps you can still meet people, but at least your hands will be busy. Oftentimes we have to take care of ourselves before helping others. Find a cause in your community you feel passionate about, and join a team of people who are passionate about giving back. Here are some ways to find volunteer opportunities:. Sign up to get a buddy here. When I first started actively working on building a support system, I tried out several online support sites..

His mood affects everyone, including me in the house. Even my friends and some family, have noticed my state of mind and have told me that they notice I am stuck. But always tell me that I am not stuck and that I can change.

Does anyone I have no one in my life really overcome this. I have suffered different levels of depression for just about my entire life. It started at about 9 after my parents divorce, my fathers death, my mother handing me over to my insane step father actually her long term boy friend to be his personal slave for a place to live and food to I have no one in my life well into I have no one in my life twenties.

My life has been a challenging marathon, I cannot find even one time in my entire life where I have experienced joy or happiness. Three years of psycho dynamic psycho therapy and nero feedback actually made it all worse and so much clearer.

I have never taken anything but natural things to help. Now at 53 I just ask the universe to please take me home, I am done here. I get up and try to carry on please click for source day because it is expected. My mother died 2 years ago, my insane step thing is still in my life, my 25 year marriage is over, I do Reiki, and practice gratitude daily.

For me life holds no joy, no meaning, nothing.

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I just wait patiently not to have to I have no one in my life this thing we call living any more and will be very grateful when it is over. I am beyond surprised to find someone that is or had experienced the same thoughts I have everyday. I am on meds but perhaps they need adjustment.

All I know is that I feel meaningless each and every day. I semi-ask the universe to end my time here. To let me out so that I can find some kind of relief. I am sad, I am tired, nothing holds meaning anymore except my children and grandchildren. They are the only reason I stick around this godforsaken planet. I did what I was supposed to for 30 years.

I raised my kids, I had a limited career because of single parenting and now that I am over 50, I am invisible. Older women are constantly compared to younger women and encouraged to make themselves appear younger if at all possible.

I suffer pain from my disc disease and it makes me think or fantasize abt suicide although I would never do it. I can understand why I have no one in my life cousins did. No I have no one in my life leads anywhere and yet I am unable to simply retire. Just flat out tired of living. It makes me sad. Reading that article and the comments this morning, my keyboard is soaked with my tears. I have always known there was something different about me.

Since I can remember I have been this way but my mom never believed in mental illness and I think I have absorbed that quality. I have no one in my life am starting to realize that its affecting every aspect of my life. I have absolutely no sex drive, I have always had no sex drive I just fake it. When I was younger, I had a major problem with gossiping and lying.

I have stopped myself from that behaviour for a while now but its becoming stronger everyday, i just blabbed my mouth about my friend to another friend for absolutely no reason and it has started a spiral of self-pity, hatred continue reading nervous click at this page for days now.

I hate the world and what we have become, what I have become. Add to this the many other social experiences we had where we felt put down, shamed or rejected a teacher who humiliated us in front of our class, a bully at school who put us down on a daily basisand we can start to see how our inner critic took shape.

The critical inner voice strongly influences feelings of isolation, loneliness and social anxiety, a subject you can learn more about here. As Dr. People who feel lonely tend to view the world differently. There are even certain structural and biochemical differences in the lonely brain.

Some of the psychological effects of I have no one in my life lonely include focusing on exclusion instead of inclusion. Another effect is timidity. We may act timid with others, making it more difficult to have a clear or relaxed exchange that would lead to a positive social outcome.

As loneliness researcher Dr. John T. So, once again, in order to challenge our loneliness, we have to challenge the negative filter through which we see ourselves and the world around us.

We have to take on our critical inner voice. Once we accept that we come by this inner critic honestly, we can start to separate it from our real point of view. We can notice the times it seeps in and tampers with the filter through which we see ourselves and the world around us.

We can then recognize how our actions are affected by this destructive thought process. How is my inner critic actually altering my behavior?

There are five important steps to overcoming this inner critic. Robert Firestone known as Voice Therapy. If someone is experiencing feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness or social isolation, it can be extremely beneficial to seek therapy to help sort through where their self-shaming feelings come from and how to challenge them. Going through the steps of voice therapy with a trained therapist can have significant benefits.

There are also exercises we can practice on our own that can help us to challenge our critical inner voice. Start to notice when your thought process shifts and your inner critic starts to invade your mind. Why are you wasting your time? Everyone is looking at you. They want you to just shut up. No one likes me. No one likes you. When people write down or say their voices out loud, they sometimes have insight into where these mean thoughts originated.

Identifying where your voices may have originally formed can help you to have self-compassion and distinguish these old attitudes from your current reality.

This may sound tricky, and this step is often hardest for people, but it is I have no one in my life that you stand up for yourself and vocalize or write down a reply to your critical inner voice. I have many qualities that many people would appreciate and like. Sometimes it works. Even demons gotta sleep. You can also start to notice how this voice influences your behavior.

It may cause you to feel insecure in your relationship, I have no one in my life you find yourself seeking reassurance from your partner. If it tells you the world is rejecting you, you may find yourself acting a bit angrier in your daily interactions I have no one in my life a whole lot meaner to yourself. Try to take note of all the times your critical inner voice is driving your behavior.

As you I have no one in my life this, adopt what Dr. So, if your inner critic tells you to stay in seclusion or to keep your mouth shut at a party, uncomfortable as it may feel at first, you have to find a way to not indulge in the behavior that will lead you to feel more shame or loneliness. Even if initially you wind up feeling embarrassed or not quite yourself when you act against your voice, you should remember to practice self-compassion.

Challenging your voices will stir up anxiety and changing a behavior pattern can make the voice seem louder at first. Most people feel like an outcast on some level, but challenging this precise feeling is what will lead you to get what you want in life.

It will allow you continue reading shed layers that keep you from feeling yourself. This is a free hotline available 24 hours a day to anyone in emotional distress or suicidal crisis.

I am the only one who pays any attention to me. I have a new friend I have no one in my life, thin as air, I named her Radzi, who sits across the table from me and listens to me. I have the same issue. I more info been told no one likes me over and over again all my life. Now my inner voice is just affirming what I already know.

I m ugly, useless and stupid. No one wants to me around a loser. Other then to feel sorry for me.

Sleeepin Fuck Watch Video Wwwchaina Sex. Leave your mom out for a while and see how she likes it. Tell her everybody hates her see how she feels. No one deserves this. No one wants to hear me when I did try to tell. It was too late because I was already reported. No one wanted to know why I did some things. Everybody wants to report everybody about any lil thing. No matter how others perceive you, your most important job is to figure out how you truly perceive yourself. It seems my most avid bedtime routine here lately has been, Step 1- put on PJs. Step 2- cry. I just have to keep telling myself that nobody is worth my pain, and then I can finally get some rest. God bless Jamil. Stay strong Cora! I will try to do the same as well from now on. We have to stay strong all of us! Ok Seriously, what about when I think everything is great. Again… This as happened all my life! That has been my experience too, my whole life. In my twenties and thirties, I discovered my sibling and parents had been on vacations without me. I love having fun. I also enjoy staying in and watching movies and taking. I would like adult company sometimes. It hurts my feelings when I find out about my family going on vacations or friends getting together but I was never included. Now I just keep to myself all the time even though I really want to be included. When I work I have no problem cutting up with people and building relationships. But it ends there. No one talks to me outside of work or away from social media. I feel like an outcast and that no one really cares at all. These same people then have the nerve to criticize me for being depressed. And that makes me feel stupid. I feel for you , the only thing my family value about me , is that they got rid of me. I just keep studying. Think of going to town where no one knows me at the end when I graduate. Sorry you so lonely , xx Kim. Are we the black sheep , I feel same as you ladies. I feel this same way. However thinking about it I am realizing that is where my inner critic is coming from. All the family outings I was excluded from and the way my family makes me feel like an outcast with their words and behaviors. I am now determined to prove my inner critic wrong! I also have been considering that when I go into a situation hoping for the best and being friendly and really trying only to be left out and isolated once again…it is highly possible that I am projecting my feeling of dislike toward the new people. Thinking back on the situations it only ever seems to happen when I myself dont enjoy the particular group I am trying to be a part of. What are the rules? This is me to a T. If I ever go to a party, its cause I invited myself. Noone tries to talk to me, seems its always me that has to make the attempt to talk to people. I know I am shy but I push myself out there. I see people avoid me. Even my own brother, hugs me when he does see me but we bought a house almost a year ago and he hasnt even seen it yet, even though hes been right up the road. My Mom is a mile away and has only been here maybe 4 times. So much of this article explained the inner thoughts. Sexually molested as a young girl, Emotionally and physically abused also. Everybody was busy, so nobody came. I ended up feeling worse about myself in the end. Kinda proved that inner voice right that no one liked me. My shrink says I need to go out and find nice people. I keep asking her how. I seem to have bad luck with it and just keep getting hurt. I feel the exact same way. I smile at everyone and I go into situations feeling positive and confident- not overly- yet no one includes me in anything. I need to start being a jerk in order to dazzle people and leave some sort of lasting impression. What you wrote is almost exactly how I feel too! I am certainly not perfect, but I perceive myself as a genuine, courteous, kind, generous person with a healthy sense of humor. I love to laugh with others not at others. I also perceive that most of the time when I attempt to interact with a group of people that I am always the one no one cares to listen too. I am careful not to dominate but if I speak even three words, someone will always interrupt me and it is as if I am just a ghost nobody notices. But I have tried being obnoxious to see if that would get me heard at least…but the reaction from the group when I do that is someone calls me out to put me in my place and I end up humiliated. Then feel really stupid for acting obnoxious against my nature. When I simply raise my voice to be heard I feel that people are looking at me like I am some kind of freak. What about if you are really lonely and it is not only a state of mind? There are a lot of people around me and I can get them like me if I want to. Oh I do relate to you , we try but would like to be heard too. I hear you! I am the same way. I always go out of my way to be helpful, considerate to others. I feel that is is very easy for people to abuse this strength of ours. Cause that is how I see it, a curse, and a strength at the same time. I am currently in a rough situation after coming out of a 12yr relationship that left me completely drained and empty. Any contact that I have with them is because I initiate it. It makes me feel even more unloved. It makes me incredibly said that the only emotional outlet available to me, is one that I need to pay for: You are understood, at least, by me. Lounik, try to get away from having to lie. Remember that humans used to live in groups of or less—Imagine how few people of our age group there used to be! Now we at least have internet so you can discuss your interest in a group or something. Unfortunately it seems that the more you give to a loved one the more they take, the less you ask for the less they give to you. I know exactly how this feels. My band is Annie and My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. I was never popular but had some friends. I did sports and piano too. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. I moved to US when I was I finished my BS in biology and got into pharmacy school and got my doctorate degree there. People sitting next to my ask about medications from someone else and ignoring me as a drug expert. Recently our friend finish her nursing degree which is only 2 year program and all of the sudden everybody listens to her advise and completely ignoring me. Sometimes it brings a teat to my eyes. I know and feel very competent and my decisions always been excellent in my career but somehow people just ignore me. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. People sometimes think me and my 13 year old daughter ate sisters. I try to read and educate myself, increase my self esteem, be positive but nothing changes in my life. I cry sometimes because I feel very very lonely insight. I try very hard to please everybody all the time. I take my parents and my daughter to Europe every year for vacation, I put my daughter to private school since she was pre-schooler , I try to surprise my family with nice gifts but inside I feel very empty. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. My parents do their best for me, help me with my daughter and give me love but I still feel very empty. I think not being able to meet any guy who would show an interest in my really bothers me a lot. When I go to parties or professional mixers I stay completely invisible. I already tried auto suggestion that I am pretty and smart and well deserved but the reality shows me something very different. Annie, My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I was struck by the eighteenth sentence you wrote above — if that is true, you might be interested in this article about the scientifically-supported study of positive emotions and thought, and your power over creating them. Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities. When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible. I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months. When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that. I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them? Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top — and that is exactly where they are! I was one of those victims. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children. A throw-away age that also includes people. In fact, I think they should change. This is a serious medical condition that needs treatment. The sooner you understand this, the sooner you can find support and improve your well-being. Click here to learn more signs of depression. Join a depression support group. The people in these groups share their experiences, encourage each other, and give advice on how to cope. In the United States, search this map of support groups. There are many online support groups or depression forums as well, including the DBSA alliance , depression-understood. You may even want to look into Youtube channels that deal with depression. This can help you to find a community of people who are having similar experiences. Keep a journal. Take a few minutes each day to unload your thoughts and feelings on paper. Many people find they feel better if they get a chance to "share" private experiences in this way. Over time, the journal can help you identify what affects your mood, and which coping mechanisms help or don't help. Remembering small things like a good cup of coffee or a stranger smiling at you can boost your mood. Make healthy lifestyle changes. Forcing yourself to stick to a regular schedule can help your mood, though this can take a few weeks to kick in. Try to get enough sleep each night, and get up and dressed each morning. Leave the house for at least a short walk. Eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly can lead to a major mood boost. While they may make you feel better in the short term, they often make it harder to fight your depression. Overcome your addiction with professional help if necessary. Seek therapy. Therapy is an effective treatment for depression, recommended by many experts and organizations. You might need to try out several therapists before you find one that you are comfortable with. Give it time to work. Many people visit a therapist weekly for six to twelve months. Consider medication. A psychiatrist can prescribe medication to manage depression, but keep in mind that this is only a temporary solution. Medication alone will not solve your problems, so it is still important to work with a therapist and work on specific concerns. There are many varieties of medication out there, and you may need to try several before you find one that works. Talk to your psychiatrist often about how your new medication is working, and about side effects you've noticed. A combination of medication and therapy may be the most effective treatment, especially for teenagers. Practice meditation or prayer. When you're upset, visit a quiet, private place. Natural surroundings work especially well. Sit down and focus on deep, slow breathing. Many people learn to improve their mood through meditation or prayer. Whenever I tell my friends that I am depressed and having urges to kill myself, they say I'm being stupid and then they slap me. What should I do? Paul Chernyak, LPC. Stop talking to these "Friends" and seek professional help if you have suicidal urges. Also seek out support both online and locally through support groups and mental health organizations. Yes No. Not Helpful 26 Helpful This is abuse. Don't listen to them. You need to talk to someone about this, a counselor, someone at school if you are young. You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of talk. Ah, you guys are all amazing. Wise Alison and hey, thanks for not dissing meds. Sometimes they are needed. Do you feel better know. I mean its been 4 years already. Thanks for this. I think all the signs are clear. Withdrawling from social contact. Feeling constantly stressed and with no energy, but with no understanding why. I think it really spiraled out of control in the past month after my close friend tragically and suddenly died. He was also just 27 and basically like a brother to me. I try to keep up appearances but doing a worse and worse job. I need to change! I understand where you are coming from. I too, am just 27 and is extremely depressed. I too also lost someone, my father last year. I feel unhappy, and nothing is enjoyable. I absolutely hate everything. Everyday, I live life worrying. I understand what everyone is going through but I feel like I have no one to talk to. You are here for a reson. Life is full of choices. I know this is an old post, but D, you need to ignore the cost, go to a hospital at once, get an MRI, and find out what those lymph nodes are about. My mother passed away from cancer. Swollen lymphs that size are no joking matter. If you see this message, go NOW to a doctor. Money is not worth your life. I do understand and know too well this walking depression. I have had depression for over 30 years now. I have to deal with it every single day of my life. I have tried so many things. I have 4 kids I take care of. Some days I can hide it and others barely hang on. I have come to realize that I was nothing, I am nothing, and always will be nothing. I have no hope, no goals, no plans for the future. I am not even sure why I was even born. I have tried to become something in my life but all I ever succeeded at was being a failure. I have no accomplishments, nothing to be proud of. My kids are my life, without them I have no reason to live. It is a struggle to get up in the mornings, getting out of bed and even go about the day. My mom verbally abused me growing up. I tried my whole life to prove her wrong, and ended up proving her right. I used to be strong and get on with the day, but now as I am older, no so much. It interferes with my job, and my kids. There is no hope for me, no point in trying. I am a failure, a nothing and always will be. It sounds like you are tired in this post. When I get tired, the words others have used to define me often come out of my own mouth. There is no easy cure for thinking we are worthless…I hope that you find evidence of your worth even before you start looking for it. Many blessings to you, you belong here. I know exactly how you feel. Every word. Except even my grown children have quit coming around. I have nothing, I am nothing, will never. No friends. I search for happiness, I look for something to be fun, but fail each and every time. Have given up and just wait to die. I sometimes feel the way you do….. As humans, we are very subjective of ourselves, but God sees so much more in us. Please hang in there and put God first, he will never forsake YOU! Everything makes me irritated and I lash out more than I can imagine. No more me being a miserable bitch and no more pain. I wish I had an answer. I could have written your post myself. I was suicidal and depressed growing up, gave myself a new start in high school, dated someone for 5 years, tried to break up after 3 and finally married him after feeling that all relationships were destined to be unhappy as his parents and men seemed to be. Eleven years after meeting him, we had our first child, three years later, the second. My parents made me feel that giving birth was the only time I had ever done anything worthy of their approval. My children became my life, my husband withdrew. I was treated for depression several times with each treatment feeling my husband pull further away. Seventeen years after meeting him, I met the right therapist who made me aware that I was married to a functioning alcoholic which finally made me feel the tension in our marriage was not entirely my fault everything seemed to be my fault as I was growing up-my parents made that quite clear. I divorced, taking my kids with me, in hopes of protecting them. They never believed their dad was an alcoholic, they were in the midst of their teenage angst period and I got no emotional support from the ex. I met someone who filled all the emptiness I felt and became engaged. This was when my life went from barely tolerable to extremely happy to utterly unbearable. My kids had refused to have anything to do with me, the environment was toxic and the divorce settlement forced me to sell my house. I had to move away, the kids wanted to stay with my parents because their dad lived an hour away. I had to turn custody over to my ex so that he would be forced to finally play a role in their lives. Here I am now, ten years after the separation, six years living out of the area and desperately trying to reconcile with my kids. I even hate myself for writing this post. I too could have written your post silentcry. I am tired…just so amazingly, horribly life sucking tired. My mother favored my brother my whole life. Nothing I could do was ever good enough. Nothing could make her proud. I was close with my father, but he worked a lot and was hardly ever home. About a year ago I gave up trying to make my mom proud of me and ever since I am numb. Inside I loathe myself and my decisions. I hate this!!!!! I want to have goals again. I want to dream. I want to try again. But most of all I want to remember what it is to have FUN again. I used to be so fun. I used to have so much fun. My deepest desire is to have a small farm with a huge garden and animal where my children can explore and I can be free. Living in this one bedroom apartment is like a prison. There is no way out. There is no knight in shining armor, There is no second chance — we are doomed by our mistakes. I am trapped. I hate him. I hate that I have to do this all by myself. My kids are all that keeps me from killing myself. When my mother dies I will not cry. My brother became the man she believed he would, and I became the loser she thought I was. I know for a fact that if she had treated me as equal to him that my life would be dramatically different. I am trapped…. You actually sound very successful to me. Move to a farm in the country, take your kids to a farm nearby, or just go exercise and be in the sun. Do what you want and share it with your kids if you can. You all deserve it! Tired…that is exactly what I would have called myself, had you not. I too am tired…a little differently though. Specifically to what you wrote though…my life was similar. The kids are grown. Please listen to me…you are very relevant. You had those children for a reason. Second, let go of the mom-hate. I had it too. It consumed me. It changed nothing. I hated…she lived her life. Let it go…smile when you see her, be polite, and let it go. Or maybe you will find a small place that you can turn into a farm…fix it up. I feel like you really can do this. My dad passed away when I was 16, my mom was not very present after that as she was serverly depressed. I do not blame her whatsoever. I was definitely not a bad kid by any means but I just went into this blurr mode is the only way I can explain it. I lost all emotion to anything sad because nothing could compare to that pain I felt, but I was just trying so hard to make happy moments. Trying too hard to be happy, and I actually think I was happy! I got pregnant 8 months after my dad passed, had my son and found out I was pregnant with my daughter months later. I started having pain in my feet during the last months of pregnancy with her but of course I thought it was just because I was pregnant for basically 2 years straight. After having her I started my first step in my goal to becoming a nurse, a CNA program. I finished the program got a CNA job quick right by my house, it was perfect and was signing up for my pre reqs at the college in the fall. The doctor initially said it was plantar fasciitis, so I started PT 3 times a week, got painful steriod shots that did nothing. I worked at the retirement home for a month but the last two week I was limping and limping, worse and worse every day! I got around on crutches in excrustiating pain everyday to get to my desk job, came home to clean the house on my knees and play with my babies. Then, After not being able to walk for 7 months I was finally diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis at 19 with a 2 year old and a 1 year old. Before all this I was a go go go person, I had goals, dreams, plans for those goals. I just feel numb, numb to everything! My husband works and he works long hours 4 days a week I am a stay at home mom. All of these things though are just normal life things that I used to be able to work out, figure out and just make shit happen. When I try to talk about it tears just kinda wail up in my eyes and just go mute. I have a wonderful husband who loves me and treats me ok, two awesome amazing kids, my only reason I live! I can tell my husband is fed up. Just as everyone else has posted on here, this pretty much fits my description. And yes, I still have always gotten up and fed myself, ran errands, but trapped in my own private hell, which, when left too fester, has often further morphed into anxiety and severe paranoia. Its debilitating and frustrating for anyone and as an artist, almost unbearable. I punish myself for everything, but especially for not creating. I am now looking to make meditation, yoga and CB therapy a part of my life. Thanks so much for the post. I hope mine might help someone else, too. About the only thing I agree with here is that there are various forms of depression. Both are awful; different people just have different responses. What looks like strength can really be a weakness. Hi Alison. Thank you for your very kind reply. And I would like to apologize for misunderstanding the intent of your post. I have exactly the same hope as you do. Take good care of yourself too. And thank you again for being so kind. Just to know that there are kind people like you out there is a comfort. Thanks so much for your soft and heart-felt response, Bren. We really are all in this together. I never ever recommend medication. Hi Bren, i have been the walking depressed and still am for years. I believe that the walking depressed is just one step lower than clinically depressed. I am at the point where i no longer want get out of bed. Every part of my life is affected. I can no longer function at my job, my relationship is in terrible shape, i find no joy or happiness in my life. I have my first grandchild and yet i find no happiness there. I know i have had several bad life experiences that havd pushed me to this point. Co-worker i cared about died, my boss was let go from his position and just a few months later, i was. Then my mom died and a few months after thar my car was repoed, then a few months after that another good friend died. I did forget to mention that my uncle killed himself in a store in the middle of all this. There is no offense. There are levels of depression and there are levels that the individual can handle. We all just need for everyone to know that this is real and that we need real help and not to looked down upon. We are not alone as you can see with all the posts. Yes I am among the walking depressed. I just turned 60 and so many regrets and deep loneliness. I see no way out. Wherever I run I take me with me. Hi Carol Your post brought tears to my eyes. I guess because I feel affinity with you. Life just goes so fast. I do get on with it but like you I am full of regret right now.. I am I have a demanding job which completely drains me to a point where I have no life any more. That has become such a huge pain for me now it is hard to bear. I just see no way out. There is no way back. I will never have a family of my own. What was I thinking of. I am a leader at work and noone would know I feel like this. But thank you all. For sharing. Love to you all. I hope you can find a parent or teacher or someone who you can talk to about this. You deserve to be happy. I used to draw or write stories while listening to music during school to get through it. My biggest hurdle is me, and that is the saddest part of it all. It is easier for me to blame circumstances, other people, etc. HI you cant run away from yourself but you can learn to love and like your self. There is only one of you dont run from your self face up to your demons. You deserve to be here. Love and much light Deborah xxx. Yes Carol. I know that now…that trying to run to some phantom of ultimate happiness made no diff. In fact my life is nearly in utter ruins. My burning brain is filled with regrets, sadness of a passing life to which no second chances will ever be offered. I wish…. I wish…I wish…. This is very good insight. I found it very helpful. Also… your borders. Those are DNA bands from a electrophoresis gel? Art and Science are not worlds apart. Instead of art on one end of the spectrum and science on the other… Think of the spectrum as a circle. Where art ends, science begins, and where science ends, art begins. I agree that art and science are much more integrated than most people think, and I love both. I believe that low grade depression existed in different ways over much of life until which turned to severe depression. I since have stabilized and I have been on meds and I believe that low grade depression is apparent. I just turned 19, and ive been feeling this way all the way throughout high school. I just noticed last year that I was depressed, but not depression itself but at this point in time all these points are how im feeling …. Everything here struck a chord with how I feel. I even drove the woman home. Why take her last bit of happiness. I do my day to day, but more and more, the few people who see my regularly have been noticing that I look tired and distant, and I hate that they are finally noticing because I am losing my grip on the facade that is my life. Nothing I used to enjoy makes me happy and I have become more and more hostile toward the people I once cared for. Am I suicidal? Will I ever follow through? I view it as cowardice. I feel under appreciated and like my kindness and helpfulness have been taken advantage of my entire life, and now that I am refusing to help others without getting anything in return, mentally, physically, or monetarily, I am being treated like the bad guy. I supposed I should digress. Your story really hit home with me, as we are in very similar mind states. My situation is the same as Peter Gibbons in Office Space. I work an office job kind of like that…and every monotonous day gets worse. Every day you see me is pretty much the worst day of my life. Hopefully we will both eventually find happiness within ourselves. Although I feel the same way as you, I can say you are not a worthless robot. I have to believe that. Like Alison, I am a writer. But have a published? Have I even finished anything? Tried for six years to change the work situation to no avail. When do I get to be happy? What I do at night is put YouTube on phone or tv or some device and make sure it is a long one and listen to something. Before I know it morning is here. Then I just want to continue sleeping but at least I slept. I look forward to night time now because I like listening and I know I will sleep. Everyone deserves to be supported and loved. But at the same time, we have the power to build our own foundations. We can work to connect with others as we work on connecting with ourselves — we just need to right tools and support. Here are some final words from our community about finding a support system when you feel like you have no one. The one person you know you can count on in this life is yourself and that has to be enough. Your friends may not know what you mean, and may not feel comfortable asking what you mean when you say you need support or help. Keep using that courage to reach out. Join Us. You can also browse from over health conditions. Submit a Story. Join Us Log In. Find a Facebook group for people who share a common interest. Want a nearby counselor? Connect with other mental health advocates..

But the one thing I know is that no one is bad. Maybe others say that due to ONE particular aspect of yours which you find normal or unique, but is actually quite irritating or immoral. Think about it! I thought this was my unique experience. Reading this today helped me get thru a very tough day; I hope you left here feeling better as well. Why nobody likes me? Why am I not clever as other people? Why am I not pretty? I mean like a very close friends.

Why I am too timid or scared to talk with other people. And why I have no one in my life think that everyone hate me because of my flaws. But I feel like my inner voice agrees with most people.

My ex was one of the click understanding people, but she left me over my problems. Most people have more going for them. Hi John, I have no clue who are you or where do you come from or what qualities you have… But I am sure of one thing…That you want to change… First of all,the way you list of your shortcomings try and list out your qualities like you have a good sense of humor or whatever.

Stop undervaluing yourself. Agreed that your ex left you because of some problems but she came close to you because of your qualities…Understand this. Your age,job status are all circumstances in your life. Having a great job will not make you a happy person. If you are lonely without money,trust me you will be lonely with money…But loneliness is just a state of mind. You can be lonely in a room full of people and you can be happy alone as well.

I hope it helps. I loved reading this! Nothing is for sure. It is what it is right now. I will have compassion for myself. Guys please help me. Now a days I do lot of overthinking. And all will be negative only. I have some I have no one in my life feelings also. Pls advise how to come out of this.

Dear Ashima, We encourage you to get support, whether through a group, a counselor or therapist. You might find some of the resources on this mental health website helpful with the feelings that you described: Hi Ashima, I think its right to say that i understand how u feel…if u r from india, going to a therapist also wouldnt be that easy due to social cliches.

Its difficult for me to advice something without knowing what is happening in your life right now. BUt i have been there where u r now…U feel like if only ur mind could stop thinking for a while…u pray incessantly for ur thoughts to stop but all in vain…I will just recommend u that start something which u like or u r passionate about.

Start learning guitar or anything else. Thanks for your article on the critical inner voice. Something or someone that causes harm chaos. Thank you and God Bless.

Try new palces, new people, new activities, new friendes. Get distracted from who around you, get bussy, be happy you deserve it! Where and how do you find no friends? Most people already have their friends. That was I have no one in my life well said. Clear, concise and so very accurate. What I dont understand is how family and friends can be so cold…with their actions, words and lack of acceptance, validation, kindness or support, yet claim they love you.

But the second you stick up for yourself, they become angry, I have no one in my life and are quick to turn the tables on you to find reasons or excuses to blame you for they here THEY act. Which further isolates I have no one in my life and increases your feelings of self doubt, vulnerability, lonliness and being accepted.

Its very difficult to not feel defeated and keep putting yourself I have no one in my life there to meet more new people when its people who ultimately cause you so much pain. Im a very generous, kind, helpful, fun, sincere, loyal person. But I will stick up for or defend myself.

I do tend to get taken advantage of because I like helping people out. But I also say no, too, so I do set boundaries. Yet, this poor treatment from others seems to be a repeating theme for me. So, what I would most like to know is, what am I doing to invite or perpetuate this check this out with people?

I truly do not understand. I relate so much to this. I too defend myself and I set boundaries. But my good qualities out weigh any bad ones. I feel this way on how people treat me. But some how fail to show their love and support. And these days are the times when I break down. And start the whole process again from the beginning!

One thing I do know. We enter this world alone. We have one life! Elizabeth, that is called verbal abuse. I have no one in my life that, or you have very poor social understanding and act I have no one in my life a way that I have no one in my life people afraid of you etc. If that is the case, you can learn. Nobody is born with social skills, we all learn them from somewhere. Socially fluent people actually study it under a master or go to school to master their emotional intelligence skills!

Elizabeth, I know exactly how you feel! It hurts deeply! No parent should ever be so mean and spiteful, but in reality it happens! These are known as Toxic people!

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You have to believe in yourself and your kids! Hold your head up high! This is my whole life. I understand all too well and I have no one in my life writing this is exhausting, if anyone gets that. Does anyone get it…? I guess. Leave your mom out I have no one in my life a while and see how she likes it. Tell her everybody link her see how she feels. No one deserves this.

No one wants to hear me when I did try to tell. It was too late because I was already reported. No one wanted to know why I did some things.

Everybody wants to report everybody about any lil thing. No matter how others perceive you, your most important job is to figure out how you truly perceive yourself. It seems my most avid bedtime routine here lately has been, Step 1- put on PJs.

Step 2- cry. I just have to keep telling myself that nobody is worth my pain, and then I can finally get some rest. God bless Jamil. Stay strong Cora! I will try to do the same as well from now on. We have to I have no one in my life strong all of us! Ok Seriously, what about when I think everything is great.

Again… This as happened all my life! That has been my experience too, my whole life. In my twenties and thirties, I discovered my sibling and parents had been on vacations without me. I love having fun. I also enjoy staying in and watching movies and taking. I would like adult company sometimes. It hurts my feelings when I find out about my family going on vacations or friends getting together but I was never included.

Now I just keep to myself all the time even though I really want to be included. When I work I have no problem cutting up with people and building relationships. But it ends there. No one talks to me outside of work or away from social media. I feel like an outcast and that no one really cares at all. These same people then have the nerve to criticize me for being depressed.

And that makes me feel stupid. I feel for youthe only thing my family value about meis that they got rid of me. I just keep studying. Think of going to town where no one knows me at the end when I graduate. Sorry you so lonelyxx Kim. Are we the black sheepI feel same as you ladies. I feel this same way. However thinking about it I am realizing that is where I have no one in my life inner critic is coming from.

All the family outings I was excluded from and the way my family makes me feel like an outcast with their words and behaviors. I am now determined I have no one in my life prove my inner critic wrong! I also have been considering that when I go into a situation hoping for the best and being friendly and really trying only to be left out and isolated once again…it is highly possible that I am projecting my feeling of dislike toward the new people. Thinking back on the situations it I have no one in my life ever seems to happen when I myself dont enjoy the particular group I more info trying to be a part of.

What are the rules? This is me to a T. If I ever go to a party, its cause I invited myself. Noone tries to talk to me, seems its always me that has to make the attempt to talk to people. I know I am shy but I push myself out there. I see people avoid me. Even my own brother, hugs me when he does see me but we bought a house almost a year ago and he hasnt even seen it yet, even though hes been right up the road. My Mom is a mile away and has only been here maybe 4 times.

So much of this article explained the inner thoughts. Sexually molested as a young girl, Emotionally and physically abused also. Everybody was busy, so nobody came. Distract yourself. Get a job or join a sport in which you are interested. If the people who don't care about you are your parents, talk to a teacher or counselor. They can help you get to the right people or agency.

Volunteer in your community! Getting involved, sharing time, talent, I have no one in my life interest where people genuinely appreciate your effort and kindness show love and support for others. Meanwhile, you are doing something positive for yourself! A real two for one! Warnings Sometimes you may not be able to think of a time when you were happy, or proud, or even peaceful.

Don't worry, this is only because you are in that hole. There's a moment; you'll find it once you feel better. If this feeling persists and leads to severe thoughts of suicide, immediately call the suicide hotline at 1 Read more can be a great comfort, but after a point the conversation should turn to improving your life.

People who dwell on negative events tend to stay depressed longer, even if they talk about it with friends. I have no one in my life Related wikiHows. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 1, times. Did this article help you? Cookies make wikiHow better. By continuing to use our site, you agree to our cookie policy. Co-Authored By:.

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MC Mave Connell Apr 13, I just figure Im always attracting the wrong kind of people into my life by being a people pleaser. I've decided its time to have some respect for myself. PJ Prachii Jadhav Mar 15, It is difficult for close ones to understand how one feels and thinks deep in his thoughts. Such articles give hope. VS Veronica S. Dec 25, However, I don't feel like my specific case can ever be addressed. But I do hope see more helps other readers.

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Most people would notice those signs, realize something was wrong, and hopefully get some help. We have many of the symptoms of clinical depressionbut we are still functioning. We keep working, keep going to school, keep looking after our families. Depression is negatively impacting our lives and relationships and impairing our abilities. But it can be just as dangerous to our well-being when left unacknowledged. Nothing is fun. You root around for something to look forward to and come up empty.

Working on your creative projects feels like a grind, but you keep plodding away. There is research that shows that neuroticism the tendency toward negative moods is associated with lower rates of flow. Your energy is low.

You feel worse in the morning and better at night. I remember explaining this to a friend, who found it mystifying. In the morning I felt the crushing weight of all the things I had to do that day.

You have simmering resentment toward others. Your self-talk gets caustic. You say nasty things in an effort to shock yourself into action. You use shame as a motivator. You feel distanced from people around you. You deprive yourself of creative work time the artist as sadomasochist.

This helps you exert some control and stirs up feelings of suffering that are perversely pleasurable. Pacing and knowing how to say No are your strengths, but your creativity is more essential to your well-being than you realize. What Kind of Creative Are You. You notice a significant mood change when you have caffeine or alcohol. A cup of coffee might make you feel a lot more I have no one in my life and optimistic.

Some people have a high sensitivity to the inherent meaning in what we do. Why should I keep going? You may recognize many of these signs in your life but still be slow to admit that you are depressed. Why I have no one in my life that? You feel like it would be insulting to those who are much worse off than you.

You may feel like you have no real reason to be depressed. Because your pride and your identity take a hit. You have to admit vulnerability and allow that you are not the all-conquering superhero you thought you were.

Because you realize that you and your life need to changewhich I have no one in my life like more work piled on your plate. Because you might uncover grief or anger at those around you for not seeing and taking better care of you.

Photo busty Watch Video pittsburgh nude. Are we the black sheep , I feel same as you ladies. I feel this same way. However thinking about it I am realizing that is where my inner critic is coming from. All the family outings I was excluded from and the way my family makes me feel like an outcast with their words and behaviors. I am now determined to prove my inner critic wrong! I also have been considering that when I go into a situation hoping for the best and being friendly and really trying only to be left out and isolated once again…it is highly possible that I am projecting my feeling of dislike toward the new people. Thinking back on the situations it only ever seems to happen when I myself dont enjoy the particular group I am trying to be a part of. What are the rules? This is me to a T. If I ever go to a party, its cause I invited myself. Noone tries to talk to me, seems its always me that has to make the attempt to talk to people. I know I am shy but I push myself out there. I see people avoid me. Even my own brother, hugs me when he does see me but we bought a house almost a year ago and he hasnt even seen it yet, even though hes been right up the road. My Mom is a mile away and has only been here maybe 4 times. So much of this article explained the inner thoughts. Sexually molested as a young girl, Emotionally and physically abused also. Everybody was busy, so nobody came. I ended up feeling worse about myself in the end. Kinda proved that inner voice right that no one liked me. My shrink says I need to go out and find nice people. I keep asking her how. I seem to have bad luck with it and just keep getting hurt. I feel the exact same way. I smile at everyone and I go into situations feeling positive and confident- not overly- yet no one includes me in anything. I need to start being a jerk in order to dazzle people and leave some sort of lasting impression. What you wrote is almost exactly how I feel too! I am certainly not perfect, but I perceive myself as a genuine, courteous, kind, generous person with a healthy sense of humor. I love to laugh with others not at others. I also perceive that most of the time when I attempt to interact with a group of people that I am always the one no one cares to listen too. I am careful not to dominate but if I speak even three words, someone will always interrupt me and it is as if I am just a ghost nobody notices. But I have tried being obnoxious to see if that would get me heard at least…but the reaction from the group when I do that is someone calls me out to put me in my place and I end up humiliated. Then feel really stupid for acting obnoxious against my nature. When I simply raise my voice to be heard I feel that people are looking at me like I am some kind of freak. What about if you are really lonely and it is not only a state of mind? There are a lot of people around me and I can get them like me if I want to. Oh I do relate to you , we try but would like to be heard too. I hear you! I am the same way. I always go out of my way to be helpful, considerate to others. I feel that is is very easy for people to abuse this strength of ours. Cause that is how I see it, a curse, and a strength at the same time. I am currently in a rough situation after coming out of a 12yr relationship that left me completely drained and empty. Any contact that I have with them is because I initiate it. It makes me feel even more unloved. It makes me incredibly said that the only emotional outlet available to me, is one that I need to pay for: You are understood, at least, by me. Lounik, try to get away from having to lie. Remember that humans used to live in groups of or less—Imagine how few people of our age group there used to be! Now we at least have internet so you can discuss your interest in a group or something. Unfortunately it seems that the more you give to a loved one the more they take, the less you ask for the less they give to you. I know exactly how this feels. My band is Annie and My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. I was never popular but had some friends. I did sports and piano too. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. I moved to US when I was I finished my BS in biology and got into pharmacy school and got my doctorate degree there. People sitting next to my ask about medications from someone else and ignoring me as a drug expert. Recently our friend finish her nursing degree which is only 2 year program and all of the sudden everybody listens to her advise and completely ignoring me. Sometimes it brings a teat to my eyes. I know and feel very competent and my decisions always been excellent in my career but somehow people just ignore me. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. People sometimes think me and my 13 year old daughter ate sisters. I try to read and educate myself, increase my self esteem, be positive but nothing changes in my life. I cry sometimes because I feel very very lonely insight. I try very hard to please everybody all the time. I take my parents and my daughter to Europe every year for vacation, I put my daughter to private school since she was pre-schooler , I try to surprise my family with nice gifts but inside I feel very empty. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. My parents do their best for me, help me with my daughter and give me love but I still feel very empty. I think not being able to meet any guy who would show an interest in my really bothers me a lot. When I go to parties or professional mixers I stay completely invisible. I already tried auto suggestion that I am pretty and smart and well deserved but the reality shows me something very different. Annie, My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I was struck by the eighteenth sentence you wrote above — if that is true, you might be interested in this article about the scientifically-supported study of positive emotions and thought, and your power over creating them. Good luck and much love. Please know that you DO make a difference in this world…. I just recently moved away from home and started college. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. Being in a whole new surrounding with new people makes me anxious and also makes me realize that I have had this inner voice my whole life. I would say that your greatness is hard for the average person to be around, and, although unintentional, you surface their deepest insecurities. When they compare themselves to you, they feel bad about themselves, which makes you feel bad about yourself. Makes sense? Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. Accepting yourself as normal human who like to be part of human community, there is no shame in showing interests, even when it misfires. You know the nerdy king, the engineers and computer scientists. There are lots of people who gravitate toward each other for reasons that may be mysterious even to themselves. Lastly, check out with a psychologist if you can afford it for a few hundred bucks, if it really bothers you why you are seen invisible. I really appreciate your advise and recommendations. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. I try hard meeting people, I try hard pleasing people. Thanks again. You may look so confident that people are afraid to approach you. Could this be the case? I was you. You must dedicate your life to change. Inner work comes first. You are not the opinions of others. Happiness is mostly a choice. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. Persistence is key. You can reprogram habits and better perspectives into your mind within several months. When I had enough, and dedicated every single moment, right now, to being in control of my thoughts and emotions, I started seeing real results. My depression and social anxiety is normal now. I am much healthier in ever aspect because I do the work to get that health.. I welcome challenges. I found peace and self-love.. I am still invisible. I never fit in with those people anyway. But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. That is normal. So I understand the frustration. Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. You decide your worth. You must learn to be a warrior of life and enjoy it, and you can, but you have to dig deep down and do a lot of introspection. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Understand deep in your soul: Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. Use it every day for the rest of your life. Thank you so much John! I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. Thanks again! The hole in your life might be filled with His love. I love the Lord. Amen Mike! God Bless you for saying that. I feel that everyone I am around family included tries to bring me down. I have constant hate from my family. They call me lazy, selfish, etc. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. I really relate to it. But I just dont know how to keep that momentum going once it starts to work. Eventually my mood just shifts and throws me off track, and i spiral down again. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. My loneliness is working against my chances finding friends. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts. Makes it easier to tell the truth of how things are not so good for us , instead of pretending. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. Once in a while i feel good for no reason, and i just accept it and savor those moments. I look forward to reading more and learning how to silence the negative self hatred. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them? Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. They carried the same nagative values into adult life, the same mental idea that it is okay to tread on other people to remain popular, to reach the top — and that is exactly where they are! I was one of those victims. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children. A throw-away age that also includes people. In fact, I think they should change. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. They seem to b crazy about me and then all of a sudden.. The wicked thought am going to die lonely and afraid keeps reoccurring!! This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. To me, this makes a lot more organic sense than doing battle with ourselves. Most of us have had enough of that— and these aspects are trying to help us, not hurt us. My mother died 3 years ago and I have no contact with my father. I have very few friends and am becoming so lonely I just wish life would hurry up and end. I work full time and even though my manager and team mates always praise me I feel excluded and different and the more lonely I become the more difficult I find it to talk to people. I spend most weekends alone in the house. I have borderline personality disorder and the voice has completely taken over. It keeps me inside a lot of the time and I have no opportunities to make friends. Hope you get to come and read this. Hope you and the baby is going well. What caught my attention most about your comment is when you talk about losing your personality because I have been there. I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. I am getting much better but still battle with these emotions and feel that God Is showing me that I will never truly find happiness trying to relate to people. I have lived by myself twice and which people and in all my cases this feeling of loneliness never died. Now I am about to live on my own again and I am prepping myself to deal with the thoughts of loneliness that I know that I will feel. Just recently after all these years of my father not being in my life I just found out that he committed suicide a couple of years back and it has also made me deal with myself a lot because many years of negative through will take you to a very bad place. I refuses to let the devil get in that much and it will always start with people. While I do believe that we can find truly loving worth while people and connections in life it can take a life time and depends on the quality of selection. I am still healing and moving foward and still a lot if defeating thoughts of not being liked or feeling alone but I do put more effect of talking myself off of the ledge. I do have a partner but I am not always happy with the attention or quality time that I am getting and still contemplate about letting the relationship go. My of these concepts of live and connecting with people that we learn are illusions that turn into delusions over all it is about balance. I have had the same experiences in life. At work people will talk about going to happy hour right in front of me and never invite me! Right now my boss only included my coworker in meetings, planning, and we do the same exact job. I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome. I have a heck of a time connecting with people. I too noticed that some people who no one likes because of bad behavior are included. I think it is because while they r annoying, they are real, alive, and connecting with others. Knowing there is a reason for my angst has helped. Wow…and I thought I was possesed or that I had a sign on my back that warned others to stay away from me! I slowly weaned myself of them but I feel worse than ever. I wish I never took them. Everything about my life should be great. I used to browse the internet late at night until I went drowsy with tiredness, and only then could I sleep, otherwise the thoughts and restless self-imprisoning mind plague me. The result was that I went to school each day on six or less hours of sleep. I would snap at my parents because they were the first people I saw every morning. Two of my direct relatives have committed suicide paternal grandfather, maternal great-grandfather and my maternal grandfather was diagnosed psychotic and spent many months of his life in a mental hospital. I feel the same way Steve. I find my anxiety councelor helps allot, an outsider who you can share everything with. I write or text myself a list of what I want to talk about before my appointment. Yoga also helps…alot. Eating healthy is a given, but not always easy.. Not comparing ourselves to others in a negative way Faking a smile.. I was on different medications in the past that made me worse.. Every body is different, so its finding what is right for you.. If it helps, two years ago I was at a point where there was nothing I enjoyed. I put myself first by doing things I knew were good for me such as, focusing on my physical and mental health, spending time outdoors, and being patient and honest with myself. The untethered soul by Michael A Singer may be a helpful book for you. Finding what you enjoy again will come naturally over time. I believe you need to do some soul searching. Technically, your twenties are meant for that trial and error period where you test the waters. Spent the whole weekend sleeping. My kids know there is something not right. From being a lively ,bubbly, health freak to being overweight and a total misery. The only way out is to sleep and sometimes wish I would never wake up. Doing nothing and wondering what the hell is happening to me. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you are trying therapy and considering medication. I also was highly successful academically and at work, teaching aerobics classes, with a spotless apartment. Then something happened. I hope you are feeling better soon. I have been through good times, great times as well as trauma in my life. One step back, one step back until we can lose momentum. Observe; remember the human physics law: Some is real, some is fiction. It is a bit of truth. It can be deceiving as well. Like the warning on a mirror: Objects may appear larger than life. My depression is real. Councilors, support groups can help facilitate the process. For me, daily prayer to GOD, which is ultimately with me, to never give up, to keep going, to create a new plan, to find a lifestyle that fits my vision. Things is motion: I have found that simple movement can really assist in the dismissal of depression. For example, i feel like doing nothing. But, I find ONE small thing to get myself going. I must brush my teeth, get showered, dressed, and go to get a coffee. Then, I allow myself to revisit the depression. Accomplishing activities, make a list and do the small stuff first. The issues in my psyche that need to be looked addressed may be talked through with a counselor. The mind is as receptive and delicate. It will do as you tell it. Observing or knowing that YOU are a spirit in a human body mind can be really powerful. Knowing that what you think may be harmful to what you are is incredibly resourceful. It is One Step that woke me up from a false sad, unmotivated self to an enlightened, ready, willing self. It takes practice. I am a work in progress; seeing my life as an hour glass.. I have always been the strongest one within everyone I know, nothing phased me and I could conqour the world. After the separation of my husband, a trip overseas which turned into a nightmare, my mother getting cancer, countless good friends leaving the city I live in, countless people screwing me over, plus many countless things to beat me down its finally got me to breaking point. Strength is something we can retrain within ourselves, because we had the building blocks for it to begin with. I am totally exhausted because I have to do everything around the house, be emotionally and mentally available all the time. I am just struggling to keep our lives together. I have to make a choice: My husband knows that he needs help but he is not very eager to get help. Holidays are something I dread because even if we do go out with the children he is never mentally and emotionally available and that leaves me to fill both my role and his role in the lives of our children. This is exactly where I am at in my life, marriage and relationships. My husband has sucked everything out of me. I no longer have any mental, emotional or physical energy to give. He goes out to his job and gets his batteries re-energized. Me, my well is dried up. My whole life feels like a lie. I feel like my family is deserting me wanting to leave me. Trying to keep me down but also trying to some how keep me going. I tried to kill myself. And all this is happening to a fourteen year old kid. My reasons are different but the feeling is the same. I am sticking to an exercise plan and right now decided to not make any firm moves till I loose 20 lbs. This is helping but little. I feel like that. It destroyed my life I lost my wife and All my family. Nothing to go on. Everyday I fight just to keep going. I am going to try to see a doctor. Every single word you said I resonate with. I too, was one who put everyone and everything first. I had no time to take care of me, and, of course, nobody else is going to. We had a busy little family, two budding careers and life should have been great, but both of us adults became ill. No wonder. My advice is this. Material things can actually get in the way of happiness, it happens all of the time, unfortunately. Those closest to us actually follow our lead. If we honor and respect ourselves first, so do they. Children are learning who to honor and respect first everyday. Today, I realize the mistake, and maybe too late. Exhausting, but I now live for me first, then the kids and grands. That made so much sense, my life seems like one endless service to others- work, kids, house, friends, family. I get cross and resentful and then instantly guilty. I have no social life, but constantly find excuses not to do something about it. It feels like a spiral. Again I am sorry if I am bugging anyone. But, I need to say this. I have a house to run and young children to look after. It is a chemical imbalance. You can be having the best fricken time, be in the middle of a situation you totally love and feel comfortable and that you are achieving something and then BAM! Like getting shot in the head. All of the sudden the cloud descends on you, the world is dark and you are very much alone. The only respite that I have learned is to embrace the darkness. Revel in the solitude of depression. Truly enjoy your cocoon and your distance that you have. I say, bitch. You can be depressed until Thursday. Enjoy the cocoon, the ugly, the not having to respond or go anywhere; even if you do you are not there. Then you snap out of it. We own it. We can give it the time that it needs, give it the space to absorb our life, but, ultimately we take ourselves back and we live our life with kindness, grace, understanding and love. Wow, everything and I mean everything about your comment is me!! It drives me down deeper but somehow I pull myself out…. I defiantly am like this. For my family, I put myself on the line for them noatter what and am always trying to be good to them, even though they just want me to be happy. Sometimes I get better, but these feeling just keep coming back. All my past does is just haunts me. I go through each day, just wanting to do nothing because I feel nothing matters. If I change, so what? Hell, this comment will probably be overlooked and never seen but damnit I want to get this off my chest. I feel like worthless scum because I have no motivation to do anything because in the end nothing matters. Hell the only thing I can truly recall giving me something to be happy about was family and friends, and even that was more of passing the time. I hate myself, and I hate my life. Hey No Body. I see you. What you wrote — I can totally relate. I cry all the time and nothing has meaing. I used to think that if only I could see the sun set, then that day would be worth living. Now… Well… Things seem so empty. Sometimes I feel better. When I find that I am in the moment. Those are the ok times. Being in water can help. Go swimming in the ocean or in a lake, if you live near one. Look at the horizon and feel the water around your body. Try to think back on a moment you felt ok. Play it over in your mind. A moment like that will happen again. For me too. They just seem so far between. Thinking of you. Chin up. No Body, I see you as well. I say ocean because I have a feeling that there are a lot of us rowing around aimlessly, not knowing where to go, who to talk with about what we are feeling, looking for that one thing that is going to show us the way back to shore. I never respond to comments. Because your words affected me. They made me feel, made me realize I am not all alone in this struggle. Someone else gets it! It may sound strange but, that thought, of not being alone, me feel so happy. Not because I want others to feel depressed and alone, but because it means I am not the only one. A beacon on the shore that is calling out to be found. I am right there with you my friend! I have faith that we can all get to that shore. You are stronger than you think. I am not good with words like most of the other people that have left comments. I am hoping that by admitting that I am in a very similar boat with a major leak and no life jackets on board…I am not alone. Thank you all for sharing your comments. I have felt those exact same feelings: Then I feel guilty because I know others have problems that are real and they deal with them and still do more than I do. I have been depressed off and on my whole life. There was always someone in my life who, I told myself, would be way too devastated if I ever harmed myself. When I was younger, it was my father; later it was my kids. My father has passed away and my kids are grown with lives of their own. We are not close. So I continue to struggle. Thanks for your comment and being brave enough to write out what you feel. So thank you and know that, as others have said, there are a lot of us out there who feel like you do, and we care even in our own sadness. Me too. Same here!! I feel like a different person in front of others and different when i am alone. In front others I am jolly, happy-go- lucky, smart and confident girl. But i am not like that. I act happy but im not happy. But there is no reason for me to be sad. No fucking reason. I have the best family, best friends, best grades. I am the class topper. Everyone says i am smart and beautiful. Almost all the boys in my class and bus like me. But i hate myself. I feel like no one deserves to be related with me. And i am ONLY 12!!!! I recognize this very well, and am just hovering above it. Same with me, took a year off to write and then returned to a daily job. And publishing, or writing for a living is not my idea of writing. I am in the same boat as you. I hope one day the world will be an easier place to live in filled with love and simplicity, and less of materialistic bullshit. Thank you so much for this. Get good grades. Go to a good college. Get a good job. Get paid good money. Buy a good house. Good this, good that. This type of life just seems so fucking boring. Yeah, right. Others go aboard while I stay at home it breaks my heart. Not just about the money but something you are passionate about. Dont go to a college if you have to pay for it. Get a job an work your way up from the bottome, do online study. The job will give you the community and chose a job you think you would like to go into that industry,. College today is a total scam because you can buy any text book you want, learn anything you want online for free. Trust me you dont want to be a lawyer or doctor, and engineers today dont need degrees, you just get one with a degree to sign off your work after you have made a name for your work. I have to respectfully disagree about college as a scam. College may not be for everyone, but a degree can certainly help you in most careers today. Why be 10kk underpaid without a degree when doing the same work as someone with a degree? In my current line of work, I can only move up by having higher education regardless of the number of years I put in. Unless you naturally have a talent or skill set that you can earn money with, consider going to college or at least the military — I spent 6 years in the Air Force during a point where I felt my life was directionless. My daughter is a sophomore in high school. She felt the same way as you, Teto. For years. She, in fact, opened my eyes to the absurdity of these institutions. Sitting in a classroom all day, at desks? At a young, healthy, vital age? We are an artsy family and neither my husband nor myself work a 9 to 5 job. So we signed off for our teen daughter to be homeschooled. She may get her GED this summer. He thinks his sister is nuts. I see both sides. My son is social, and competitive, and into computers and tech. My daughter would go comatose having to play those worldly games. The key is, find your actual passions, find your confidence, and minimize distractions, escapist tendencies, and other forms of BS. Talk honestly with whatever adults you can trust, about your feelings about all of this. So many things we are supposed to fall in line with ARE pointless, and are not about us at all, but about the power structures that rely on you to be a good littler worker. There are many of us that have done well being creative and not following that 9 to 5 path. Connect with nature. A lot of people feel that way. It transcends us. It is a pure expression of life. Hi I know this comment was posted a long time ago, but you mentioned that you were an artsy family. What kind of artsy jobs do you work in? I can so much relate to you. I feel the same way! I miss feeling anything but anger. What is wrong with me. I will. AFTER all. I feel. Bella, I totally understand what you are going through. I went through the same thing at My husband at the time cheated on me. I also had his Neice and nephew living with us. I was so depressed and resentful that he left me. I still am I have never been the same. I rarely experience joy in my life. But my worst mistake was taking it out on my oldest boy. Your friends may not know what you mean, and may not feel comfortable asking what you mean when you say you need support or help. Keep using that courage to reach out. Join Us. You can also browse from over health conditions. Submit a Story. Join Us Log In. Find a Facebook group for people who share a common interest. Want a nearby counselor? Connect with other mental health advocates. The Mighty iPhone App is here! Get it now. Sarah Schuster is the editorial director of The Mighty's contributor network. Follow her on Twitter saraheliztweets. Sarah Schuster. Counselor Paul Chernyak reminds us: You will be surprised by how many positive responses you will get. If you start to care about others, you will start noticing that others will care about you in return. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in Emotional Pain Feeling Left Out. Learn more. There are 12 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. Develop self-compassion. Developing your self-compassion can help you to feel better about yourself overall. It can also help you to see more positive traits in other people. Some things you can do to develop self-compassion include: Fight feelings of worthlessness. People who feel worthless often can't accept that anyone cares about them. Remind yourself that you are worth caring about, no matter how you feel or what anyone says to you. Practice talking back to negative thoughts, even if you feel like giving in to them. Do you argue with them, as though you're trying to prove how worthless you are? This can make you feel worse, and make other people less willing to help. Pay attention to your responses to these situations. Learn to stop and say "thank you" instead. Reach out to old friends and acquaintances. If your close friends and family aren't there for you, think back to people who were kind in the past. Share your feelings with a family friend, a teacher, or acquaintance who's good at listening. Talking in person or over the phone tends to work better than talking through text or online chat. Understand "uncaring" responses. When you're severely depressed, it's easy to assume that everyone is mean, unkind and uncaring. Most often, people are just more focused on their own lives. This does not mean that they do not care about you. Responses like "It will get better" or "Just ignore it" may sound dismissive, but the person saying it often thinks they're giving real help. These people may be able to cheer you up in other ways, but be careful talking to them when you're at a low point. Find new hobbies and friend groups. If you have few friends or close family members, one argument can temporarily destroy your whole support network. Pick up new activities to meet more people, and give you another source of self-worth. Try volunteering. Helping others can be a great way to feel good about yourself. Join a club, a religious organization, or class at a local community college. Practice talking to strangers to get to know them better. Find support online. For times when you have no one to talk to, find a supportive stranger to speak with anonymously. Try Blah Therapy or 7 cups. During a mental health crisis, contact a suicide hotline. These are available through online chat and phones worldwide. Look for your country at Befrienders. Keep a collection of happy memories. When you're depressed, it's hard to notice the positive events in your life. Hugs or supportive conversations may not even feel real to you, or you might forget them a few hours later. Keep these in a journal or box of papers. Add to this whenever someone sends you a happy message or does something nice for you. Read these over the next time you feel like no one cares about you..

If you are in dire straits, please contact your doctor or visit the International Suicide Prevention Wiki to find a hotline near you. Do these signs ring true for you?

Have you ever been depressed and kept on walking? I invite you to share your own experiences in the comments. When you do, please be kind to yourself and others. Kindness is the watchword. And if you feel like you want to hurt yourself, please get help right away. Read article video for those who responded to this article when it was first posted in March Photo credit: Oleg Sidorenko.

I see this every single day I have no one in my life my healing movement work with women, who simply refuse to put anything about themselves first. It is my greatest frustration as a teacher. I was only able to put myself on the list and not spend my days doing things I dreaded because I should when I realized I also had to role model happiness and how to get it… And not just achievement.

It I have no one in my life still new and difficult and required pulling away from my extended family so as not to go back to old patterns of devaluing myself. And then now attempting to reclaim myself but feeling crazy guilty about it. It feels crazy, scary, and wrong. My kids are 7, 9, 11, 15 and Except for the youngest, the kids do not need or want me hovering. I have tons of interests and passions and have accomplished cool things. I feel like my husband and children will all hate me and reject me if I pull away and delight myself.

Even though it is totally irrational. I wish I could locate the source of that awful, negative, soul crushing false belief. I have a wonderful hardworking husband and a beautiful daughter. We have a home and have savings.

I try to convince myself that i am happy and satisfied but i am not. I have worked with doctors, medication,councellors and my biggest break has been with cognitive hypnotherapy to help ease my anxiety.

However i am at the same old point. That are so many things i want to do in I have no one in my life world, like creative artwork and acting, which is my check this out long love and yet i have always been to scared to do anything about it.

I have ordered your book today and hope that i can change my, our lives also…. I thought maybe your depression was due to being pregnant every year. Being bogged down inside instead of walking briskly or riding your bike, running whatever for just 20 simple minutes is like popping red dragon ludes.

After I was released from jail that night having explained to the police what I was doing. Thank you for this…. Thanks again!! Me me, I too find it difficult to put me first.

I grew up in L. I worked in the media. Size 2 was never accomplished, though I had friends who could! But my depression has come after finishing Law I have no one in my life in FL. And, I find that I have put aside my desires for years I have no one in my life of my sense of duty to others. You, at least, have raised a child.

I I have no one in my life achieved that. However, I am not willing to give up! I do have the ability to do more! We must each I have no one in my life our path, our own reasons to live! You have accomplished so much! There has to be more! I can relate to most of these signs, but one of them is inverted for me.

How does one put themselves first? What if there is nothing you enjoy, then how do you know how to do that?

I so want to change, to get back to the me who woke looking forward to the new day. Most of all I want to stop dreading nightfall. My anxiety level goes up, my heart races and I have a feeling of being totally unwell.

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I prefer not to resort to pills but may have too. Please share any tips you might have for getting over this total hatred of nighttime. Dread of the nighttime… Can totally relate to this.

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